Dom/ sub

[Pinapanda]

I met a guy recently and there is definitely a noticeable attraction between us, and although nothing physical has happened yet there has been a bit of flirting with this regard.

We have 2 friends (female) in common and they both say that he is a decent guy but they are probably a bit more open than I am. From what they said he is into some more kinky stuff than normal, and while he has made references he definitely has not been explicit with me about this. He mentioned casually that he is dominant in general, which tbh would suit me but I’m not sure if I am being naive here.

We’ll be out as a group later after work and the other 2 friends will be there too, and he has offered that I can stay over at his place if I like because he lives close to the venue. I have agreed but now I am wondering if I am being an idiot and careless, but I have a tendency to overthink and maybe self sabotage at times. Should I pro-actively bring up my boundaries or just see how we get on because he might not even be planning anything more unusual? I have honestly never discussed boundaries beforehand and it feels odd to me, but I don’t think I have ever worried about this either. I am probably overthinking right?

Sorry if this seems like a stupid question.

@ChrissyShenkle I'm not into this stuff nowadays, but the forms aren't consent forms as such saying you consent to a shag or whatever. They are things like how much do you each fancy A, B, C, D, E, F, G activity so you get an idea of what you both want to do. It's just so you get an idea of what you both fancy doing together. People can google 'BDSM checklist' if they want an idea of what I mean.

@Pinapanda As I said before, what's the hurry? If he fancies you this won't be the last time you ever see him. Do you really want to agree to D/s activities you don't know about when you've had a couple of drinks? Or be teetotal all evening on a night out just in case? Or risk him trying to get you to do stuff you don't want? Why not wait a week or two so you can get to know him more deeply and talk more about things? Being in the house of a relatively random guy all night can be creepy. If you are that horny you can't wait to the extent you're risking putting yourself in dangerous situations, use a Magic Wand toy or something to chill yourself out about it.

Never have any sex/fetish stuff you don't like the idea of just for the sake of impressing a man. The right guy for you will be on the same page and like the same sort of things.

I agree with PP's about doms being problematic by the way. My main ex I did it with pretended it was role play/kind of, but it was an excuse to try and have me have no say in what the relationship was like and how it went, and also he overrode my safeword which is abuse and a supposed definite no-no. He was also kind of misogynistic.

This. Ugh.

This

And possibly this