Husband objecting to me cutting my hair short

[Lanky Lass]

My husband has been objecting to me wanting to try a pixie cut, saying that he won't find me so attractive if I do or that he'll grow a beard. I don't actually mind him growing a beard, it's him saying he'll do something just because he thinks I won't like it that bothers me. I feel upset by his comment but obviously he's entitled to his opinion. Feeling a bit confused and wondering is this controlling behaviour by him?

Get your hair cut.

Chop that hair off today

Didn't you post this before? Months ago? Exact same scenario because I remember recoiling at his Beard threat. 😨
Pogonophobic.

You can cut your hair any way you want but doing something you know your spouse finds unattractive is a sign there are probably bigger issues in the marriage. Just like if you hated man buns or handlebar moustaches or a mullet or an chinstrap beard and he decided that is what he wanted.

I don’t think it is controlling to have opinions about what you do or don’t find attractive At the end of the day you can do what you want but it may impact his attraction to you. Just like he could make changes to his appearance you find unattractive.

I wouldn't fancy my wife any more if she got one either (still love her obviously) but it would be damaging for our relationship in the physical attraction sense. same if I did something to drastically change my appearance might put her off me too. so if you don't mind him not fancying you anymore then just do it anyway?

He's just being honest with you, we all have preferences with our partners. IF my DH had a great head of hair, I'd probably tell him that I wouldn't find him as attractive if he told me he was thinking of shaving it all off 🤷. Plus if he said, I'm thinking of doing this, that or the other, that sounds as though he's asking for my opinion. If you want his opinion, it's good he's being honest about it, if you don't care for his opinion, go ahead and get it cut, it's your hair afterall.

I don't think it's controlling. But I think it's unrealistic to make a change that your husband says he doesn't find attractive at the outset and then think it's unfair not to be found attractive by him.

Kinda depends how long it is to start with, so how drastic it would be? If its long, go shorter in stages - layer, then Bob, then short Bob, then pixi. You might not like it short either if it's drastic. Also, be honest with yourself, a pixi cannot be pulled off by everyone. If got a chunky face with multiple chins, it's less of a good look tbf.

Shallow much???

what if she lost her hair due to chemo or went bald through alopecia ? Surely you “fancy” your wife due to who she is and what she means to you, not just how she looks and how her hair is!?!?

People can’t help what they are attracted to.
I’d really hate it if my husband wore cardigans.. or shaved off his beard. I’d find him less attractive. Of course I’d still love him but that’s not necessarily the same as attraction!

I dated a guy who announced to me that women should always have long hair and he wouldn't be happy if I cut mine. He was a misogynist asshole.

@fourelementary no I obviously found her attractive in the first place based on how she presented herself , and that's why I wasn't attracted to anyone else who had a different appearance.
losing her hair due to an illness is totally different than her making a choice to just completely change her appearance

Can't you go on dadsnet?

@Moonshine5 why would I go on dadsnet? I'm a woman :s

Sincerest Apologies @Leo227

if my husband said he was going to grow his hair long and wear it in a ponytail I would tell him I would find that unattractive. That’s not controlling, it’s being honest.

It is controlling.

It is your hair.

If he really doesn’t like it, you might chose not to have it long term. On the other hand you might, and you can, because it’s YOUR HAIR.

If you fancying your wife is based on a haircut, it doesn’t sound like much of a relationship.

You might prefer her with a particular hair style, but sexual attraction generally runs a rather deeper and wilder than the length of one’s hair..

@theduchessofspork if I got a pixi cut I'd look like a moon faced bloke (I'm a woman) short hair on a woman suits some and looks awful on others (I would be one of them) and just wouldn't expect my wife to fancy me any more than if I shaved half my hair off and gave myself a green mohawk.

It's an opinion. That's all. If you want I pixi cut - get it.

“If you fancying your wife is based on a haircut, it doesn’t sound like much of a relationship.

You might prefer her with a particular hair style, but sexual attraction generally runs a rather deeper and wilder than the length of one’s hair..”

This. I fancy my DH because of all of him - not just his hair but his face, his body, his energy and his personality. I also fancy him because we’ve been 25 years together and still have interesting conversations and make each other laugh. The idea of not fancying him because of how he’s got his hair is just crazy.

I’m taken aback at pp saying they’d find their partner less attractive due to a change in facial hair/haircut. Superficial, much? I would find my partner more attractive they felt confident in their appearance and happy with their haircut.

They say it's common for men to leave their wives if they get cancer. Those men probably come out with that sort of shallow crap you did 🙄

My husband prefers long hair on women OP He'd love it if I grew mine out but I can't stand hair on my neck so it's never going to happen.

He's not a dick about it though.

@Dery do you not think even his face would look different though if it was framed by a jennifer Aniston style feathered shoulder length locks?

not sure why people keep commenting only on my posts when everyone else has said the same.
my wife has had cancer actually and we've had a wonderful relationship throughout thanks @gamerchick