Hi all,
So joined OLD around a month ago. 31 years old. Signed up to Tinder and hinge.
Agreed to go for a drink with a guy over Xmas, I did notice he put on his hinge profile 'figuring out my dating goals' and he also put 'very happy in my own company, needy may not apply'
He asked me how long I've been single, have I been on many hinge dates etc!
And I pointed out that the comment he made about not wanting needy and figuring out his relationship type sounds like he just wants casual, which is fine but not what I'm looking for so maybe it's best if we don't meet.
Then he said 'oh no I don't do casual either, my ex wife was obsessed with her work, becoming a partner in her firm, we ended up splitting up, he is soft and empathetic and she isn't etc etc,
And then said 'does my profile seriously say that haha, why did you even talk to me then'
And I said because I only noticed it there now, didn't notice it when we matched and started chatting.
He has now taken it down, but hasn't put down if he wants long term or short term etc,
He , messages quite a lot and if I don't message back , he will double message, I thought that was a bit odd for someone who doesn't want 'needy' himself ๐ค
Anyway I don't know if I'm overthinking and jaded due to some of my friends experience with OLD and all the stuff I read on Mumsnet and I should meet him over Xmas
OR if I'm actually just being pretty perceptive and spotting a red flag early and should save myself the bother of meeting him
What do you think Mumsnetters?!
Thanks in advance!
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