Husband dumped me on the street after argument

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I am now sitting in a coffee shop wondering when can I go home.

My husband and I had an argument yesterday. We didn't speak much after the argument. This morning after we sent our kid to school he suggested that we go somewhere for breakfast. I was not very keen but agreed.

After we parked our car and on our way to the restaurant he started the argument again. The conversation gone mad and we were both outraged. I told him I want to go home but the keys are in the car and he got the car key. Then he said "then I will leave you in the cold!" and dashed off to the restaurant by himself.

So I was left on the street alone with no keys. I walked more than half an hour back home, hoping I might have forgotten to lock the door this morning. No luck of course. But thankfully I got my phone and card with me so I can find a place to sit down.

I can't stop thinking how miserable I am right now! I am think the guy in the cafe must be thinking why this woman is sitting here forever:(

By the way, lesson learnt, always have a spare key in your wallet or handbag. :(

I wish he is the one being locked out. What a jerk he is.

Call a locksmith, it’s your house, it’s cold and you need access

Sorry your husband is a twat

How come you were arguing op? How are things usually ?

are you ok?

Why couldn’t you go to the restaurant? I don’t understand?

Locksmith?

Have you called the twit him?

Whatever the argument your dh is very nasty. My dh has never purposely left me anywhere without a key.
I would sneak his keys one day and leave him outside in the cold, but I’m a vengeful person.

He is absolutely awful. Can you go into the restaurant and ask him in loud voice for the house key?

That's because we are in the heat of an argument. I don't want to spend another minute with him or ended up arguing in the restaurant.

I'm not sure the lesson you need to be learning here is always carry a key in case your husband is a twat again and leaves you stranded.

He is a narcissist, I think you get the picture

What are you arguing about that’s so bad and causing this sort of reaction in you both?

If he isn’t coming to let you in, call a locksmith.

If this is a one-off, you could call him and ask him to go home and let you in.

If this is a pattern, you need to think about whether this life is acceptable to you. Is he nicer to the kids than he is to you?

I haven't called. He won't answer. He is such a jerk. He is happy to see me suffer. He thinks I deserve this.

You won’t call him, won’t go and get a key.

sounds like 2 stubborn people. Go and get the key!

I wouldn’t be able to forgive this personally.

So you know where he is, and where the key is, but you won't go there to fetch the key?
You both sound like you need lessons in conflict resolution.

Have you got friends you could call? Go to a nice restaurant and have a really good breakfast/lunch. Spoil yourself and enjoy not being with him!

I don’t doubt he’s a jerk op, but you do need to take some responsibility. Go and get the key, sitting stubbornly refusing to call, get the key, it’s only uou making you suffer right now.

Forgive what? The argument was mutual. She hasn’t said what it was about. They were both outraged. He said he’d leave her and went to restaurant. She’s pregnant not Ill. She could easily have followed. She chose not to. They are both as bad as each other.

Not at all, no. Narcissist is one of the most overused terms on MN to the point that it barely means anything. Why not just explain more about what happened?

Neither of you meant to be working today?

You've got a child in the middle of this? I know they're at school right now but it all sounds toxic. Either get the key, break a window or call a locksmith. Then get legal advice and leave this idiot.

Your the poster who’s husbands smashes their children’s toys and you were quite argumentative and defensive on that thread as well.

I thought I’d seen your name somewhere

Years ago an ex of mine did something similar but I still lived at home with my parents. We were out and I didn’t “show him the respect he deserved” so as a punishment he took my phone off me (that I paid for nothing to do with him). Im sure you can see why hes now an ex, had plenty of form for this behaviour. I promise you they don’t change. I refused to be in his company any longer and made my way to a friends house and told them not to disclose my whereabouts. He’d thought I’d walked home. He spent a good couple of hours panicked out of his mind knocking on the door of all my friends houses looking like a complete twat trying to find me and having to explain why he had my phone and not me. He never tried that one again. If I were you I’d stay somewhere warm, have a nice lunch and make yourself conveniently unavailable to him for as long as you can. Let the bastard sweat it out and taste a bit of life without you. How dare he purposely leave you out in the cold. He made you perfectly aware of his intentions, listen to what he’s telling you. He doesn’t care about you and will leave you in the cold because he’s a cruel asshole. You owe it to yourself to find someone who’s kind and wants to look after you.

Nice bit of victim blaming there.
And the OP didn't say she was pregnant.