Will he break no contact with her?

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Been with my partner for 4 years.
Relationship isn't all that great he's always cheated etc.
Except this time he would have what I'd class as an affair.
He met someone through his work and was seeing her daily.
Telling her he loved her, they had made plans to have a baby together in time, sleep unprotected etc. and run away together with her kids.
I know I shouldn't blame her as she didn't know anything about me.

But I hate her. And I can't hate him

It was going on for 6 months. I've had to listen to voice recordings of them having sex, seeing all their loving messagaes to one another and it just breaks me.

I made him change his job route so he doesn't see her anymore and made him change his number and email address as they'd even email each other. But I just feel like he will go back to her at some point as they was both heavily invested in to it.

He met her kids and family and the only reason he's gone no contact now and cut her off is because I found out.

She's now moved close to his new route and is bound to bump into him again at some point.
We are getting on ok and working through things we're engaged etc but I can't help but feel he will end up doing it again with her.

Just need to ask has anyone else experienced this? And they've gone back to the other woman. Even if it was just emotional or talking?

I am going to get rid. They saw each other and couldn't take their eyes of one another. He didn't know I saw him. I just want to be loved that's all. If he wasn't interested he wouldn't be staring at her. He looked like he was staring into her soul. Haven't stopped crying.

I didn't use to be like this. But my dad done this to my mum it's all I know.

Pick your self respect up off the floor OP and get rid of the latest in what sound like a succession of abusive boyfriends. Your children were removed from your care and that should be telling you something about the impact your choices have had. Your children were removed from your care and your sole focus seems to have been how to "win" back the latest cheating scumbag.

OP one step at the time. Mind charity does very adorable therapy. Focus on you and loving yourself and you'll see when you're in better space a nice man will come.

Op, it is SO much better to be single than in a relationship like yours.

You don't HAVE to be in a relationship. It doesn't define you. There are a 1000 other ways of finding happiness in life.

The ONLY reason to be in relationship is if it makes (both) your lives better.

He regularly cheats on you. He lies to you. He's now fallen in love with another woman. You saw his messages - his long term plan was to leave you and be with her. He didn't 'choose' you. He chose the easiest option for him in that moment, whilst saying that what he really wanted is her. He doesn't love or respect you. You deserve better.

I would choose being single every day of the week rather than be with a man who doesn't really want to be with me, lies to me, cheats on me, professes their love to another woman.

PLEASE end it. Then take some time being single. Work through some issues, maybe seek some therapy if you can, so that you can raise your self esteem and realise that YOU ARE WORTH SO MUCH MORE than a loser of a man who can't keep it in his pants.