A few years ago I was at uni and a girl was starting to join our friendship group. I didn’t really know her at the time but she seemed nice and has gradually now, over the years, become part of our core group.
It was in the early days of her joining our group that we were all on a night out and a couple of the girls boyfriends were there.
This girls boyfriend ended up kissing me. We all slept in the same house that night and the next day (when sober) he said to me ‘I’m surprised we didn’t end up in one of the bedrooms together’. I just ignored him and went into another room.
Now this girl and this same guy are married and have just had a baby.
I have felt so so guilty over the years and this has now intensified with their baby news. I know I only have myself to blame for this. Out of everyone in the group I am least close with her, maybe because I’ve always had this guilt in the back of my mind.
I realise my part in this, we were very young and we were drunk but it takes two to tango. I feel very guilty and have never done anything like this since, nor would I. Her now husband has added me on Facebook and instagram at odd hours, like 3am, when he’s been on a night out. I’ve seen him a couple of times since and I get the vibe he fancies me but I’ve just kept my distance completely as I feel awkward.
I was watching a chat show the other day and this topic came up, someone said they would always let their friend know if their partner is a cheat, but they would do it via anonymous letter.
Should I tell her? Would you want to know?
I wish I had just grown a pair said something initially when it first happened.