Men moving on quickly

[LucyvanderPelt]

Another thread has made me think about how men seem to move on so quickly after the end of a relationship, no matter how long the relationship was or how it ended (even after the death of a partner).

Do you think men tend to move on far more quickly than women? And why - are their feelings more superficial? Do they just want a maid and don’t mind who it is? Do they have the new partner already lined up before ending their current relationship?

@gannett How do men have more options? It's more that many women don't want relationships as they get older, as evidenced by this thread

Pritty much this

Aren’t there enough male spaces in the world without them following us here to correct us?

My dad has done this. Not for cooking/cleaning etc as he always did that (my mum didn't do any cleaning etc) so no idea why the rush
My mum died in July (married for 50 years), he met someone in December
They've been together nearly a year now but I still don't want to meet her and he's not happy with me about it

It's a lot more acceptable for a man to move from woman to woman but a woman gets a reputation if she goes from man to man, if a man has 2 or 3 failed relationships it's fine but for a woman especially if her children have different fathers she is seen as anybody's.

@trippytriangles , sadly I agree with you there .

Sadly still true. Even on middle age I hear comments about men who jump from woman to woman being a lucky sod but women who have a few short relationships get frowned upon.

It's because in reality, men are babies.

For many, the second wife is someone presentable who they can sleep with and who will make sure their dinner is on the table and their shirts are ironed. It’s really not much deeper than that.

I'm not sure I know any women who live this 1950s housewife life... at least not the ones around my age (ie in their 40s). Where are all these Stepford Wives?

And if there are so many servile women out there as you describe, good looking, willing to cook, clean, housekeep and a good shag too, who are all too willing to shack up with emotionally unintelligent man only a few weeks out of a relationship, then you have our answer as to why men move on so quickly - who can blame them!

Today my fiancé and I split up and I am broken hearted.

Im approaching 41, I’m now single, I’ve no children and I’m feeling like I’ve failed. Again.

I’m certain that he’ll move on quickly yet I can’t see myself with anyone else.

@Stanno I’m so sorry to read that. All I can say is that I am going through the exact same thing just now and I know how much it hurts.

it happens because men have far more options in mid-life, mainly because the average woman is willing to date someone older whereas the converse is rare.

@LucyvanderPelt I don't know how they do either, I know I couldn't. Although, when you think about it I guess those who are kind and do care would struggle as apposed to those that do these things to others without a care in the world.

Mine would instantly fall asleep like had a clear conscience. Only, it wasn't a clear conscience, it was a total lack of empathy.