Divorced men over 40 on OLD

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How accurate is this ? 🤣

Ha ha ha 🦝

I thought the same.
Personally I know a lot of divorced women with kids who have a lot to offer and have gone on to have relationships with men that are great.
If men over 40 on these sites genuinely expect that women wont have kids or a background at their age they are even more stupid than the bog eyed fish they are often holding.

Just want something chilled
Not into drama

Translation: don't complain about my shitty behaviour or expect anything from me but please act like a girlfriend when I fancy it once a week (speaking from bitter experience)

An ex of mine had photos of him holding a huge fish 🤭 I only let him off cos he actually was a fisherman

Also
Just seeing who's out there 🙄

I'm sure women's profiles are crazy too, I've never looked but I'm intruiged now!

I tried Plenty Of Fish several times over a few years.

Mens and womens profiles are equally awful I think.

Men posing with fish - women posing with the pout and filters.
Men in clubs with mates - women on hen nights in a group.
Both Men and women taking a few years of age Men take selfies with a car - women take selfies in the car.
Men take selfies in a bathroom mirror - Women take selfies in the bathroom mirror.

I will say that one thing I noticed, no man posted pictures with those stupid Snapchat filters added on like cat ears or whiskers.. and no womens profile I ever saw had Nightmare Racoons... Yikes.

The trouble is they're right. All the half presentable divorced men in their 50s I know have GFs 15 years younger and others lining up, should there be a vacancy.

Aaaahhh - I like the sound of Steve. He's clearly a Carpenters fan.

And I could cope with a partner having a hobby painting badly. I just wouldn't let him loose on my walls...

Please tell me what the 🦝 thing is? I'm not an OLD (way too scared), but this thread is cracking me up.

I can’t think of any time when I will do online dating. I just cannot. It’s sounds horrendous. How can anyone find anyone else attractive from a catalogue of bad pics and cheesy bios? In RL, they may well be much nicer but this is never going to do anyone justice. And if someone looks really nice online then everyone else will think so too. I know it does work, but I don’t understand it at all. I think I’ll just stay single.

And why is that? Coz 35 year olds are desperate for a half decent chap to impregnate them or to be daddy to their existing brood. So, the 50 year olds would do well to avoid that demographic unless they want to be the child giver or financial support.

it’s not quite as an attractive proposition when looked at like that.

Well I don't know, but that's not what's happened to the men I know. Most of these younger women seem to accept that they won't be having children because they're with men who have already had their family.

Some of them are doing some childcare for their BF's DC but most of the men's children are adults. wowouldn't say any of them are financially dependent, they don't seem in a hurry to live together. It looks very appealing from the men's POV to me.

More fool the women who go for these older guys. Just ewww.
I can understand it perhaps if you have a very long shared history going back to your 20s, but the thought of a much older man at my age (late 40s) is a complete turn off.

The poster never said that. They never said that at all.

They said it was a bit shit to ridicule someone’s paintings on here.

It is. It’s not like ripping the shit out of the ‘ I don’t want no drama’ men. The other stuff people are ripping the shit out if is quite gendered. And no one is identifiable.

The paintings thing is not gendered and the person is immediately identifiable.

Yeah he posted them publicly but they were behind a paywall and Mumsnet is not.

It is mean to mock an individual like this. And there is no way thinking it’s ok to mock him is a feminist stance. That’s bollocks.

A raccoon... see pp painting incident

Ive seen loads of men in their 40s use snapchat filters.
One actually had the one with 'cute' written all over his face.

Pictures of them ontop of a mountain with their pants down and commonplace too.

Or a strategic rolex/crotch picture.

Ive seen quote a few train selfies where they are clearly at pains to get the 'first class' logo on the seat in the pic too.

Quite a few pictures of whips and im guessing all the ones named 'Dom' arent short for dominic.

Funnily enough someone i was talking to but thankfully never met drew a picture of me, he copied it from my profile pictures. Wonder if it was racoon man, wonder if my portrait (not very good... think kids pencils) is hanging on the wall of a padded cell somewhere. Probably. 🤷‍♀️

That's at odds with what I heard from women in their 50s, who complain about too many men in their 50s being uninteresting and therefore looking younger. The needs aren't outrageous, a bit of life, going out & doing stuff. They find too many fairly inactive, staying in too much & acting older than their age.

My experience with women seems different, I'm open to a certain amount of years either side of my age & either side equally interesting to me, tho interest in me is higher from the older side

Blimey. Yes can’t fault the guys for it if this is the case. If I could ‘get’ a 35 year old who would love me for who I was and appreciate me I would choose a younger man over an older one any day. Why wouldn’t anyone?

I would just worry that they’d be in it for the wrong reasons.

I guess there must be an attraction though for men to go after older women too who are more independent and have definitely done with the family thing.

having said that my friend is 34 and she’s trying hard to pin down her 45 year old man (no baggage). She’s stunning and sweet. So, some women must just like older guys.

What does 420 friendly mean?

They smoke weed.

Why wouldn’t anyone?? Well I certainly wouldn’t. I have no interest at all in dating a man I could have given birth to.

They like to get up early in the morning. Not great people to know if you like to sleep in

Weed smoker

I'm early 50's & would never date a man in his 30's - totally unappealing.

I prefer the same age group within a few years each way & also the same educational level, cultural markers eg 80's music, tv programmes.

But then I want an equal relationship.

I think the 23 year old is a very extreme example, but I certainly have seen profiles from women who expect certain things in a potential match, and its not always clear why they expect those things, or what they are offering as a partner

😂

I wouldn't be able to keep a straight face 🙈