How soon for new partner to meet kids

[EmeraldTheSeahorse]

I know there is a bit of an unwritten rule to wait 6 months before introducing someone to your children but has anyone done it sooner? Also does this still apply for older children like teens / preteens? Is there still a need to wait 6 months? Or is it mainly aimed at younger children where the break up might be fresh or just because they are younger might struggle with it more? I’ve also seen people saying it’s pointless waiting 6m as they may not get on with the child? Does the age of a child make a difference on how soon you would introduce them? I haven’t met anyone yet btw so just asking in advance if the age of a child makes a difference as I’ve also seen people with younger children saying they introduce someone quickly as a friend so the child knows no difference. Those of you with teens how long did you wait?

But that is going to go down like a sack of shit with the Op 😆

It's probably really dramatic of me, but I just can't abide the thought of someone I (or my kids) don't really know, being in their sanctuary.

I wouldn't even have a less known houseguest (eg the fairly new boyfriend of my sister) stay for one night if my kids were here.

So I suppose the short answer for me would be "until I feel like I truly know them". So we would have had to have holidayed alone, even just a night or two away, had time to see each others spending habits, moods in a range of circumstances, met friends and their family etc. Probably have had our first disagreement, just to see how they react/resolve.

Couldn't give a flying fuck whether you stay single or not. I'm another single mum who's post you ignored cos it didn't concur with the way you wanted it to.

So, I go back to my initial question, why the fuck did you post, if you're just going to throw back everyone's answer that doesn't agree with your 4 or 5 months determination? You clearly don't care about people's responses or be taking them on board. Just wasting everyone's time including your own ( which apparently your short on)

Exactly! Why I will never ever move in a man in to my children home whilst they are dependent on me for their home.

as I write this - my teen DD is lying in her underwear on the sofa after a work out.

The thought of her not being able to do this because my boyfriend also lives in her home - well, never going to happen.

Do what feels right. Tbh you're completely jumping the gun here anyway. The dating pool has piss in it so you've gotta find one first 🤣

Lone parent for 5 years, dated plenty. Definitely not living my life as a nun but my children don't need to be aware of any of it. Theyve met several people I've dated in casual situations such as 'bumping' into them at the pub etc. They were none the wiser, just one of mums friends in their eyes.