Ex wants toy back he bought daughter over 3 years ago. What should I say?

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So Basically he wasn’t allowed access to her whilst the case was in court due to abuse for 3 years. First gift he hand delivered and tried to bang his way in my mums house and stood outside screaming whilst we were all inside. Made sure daughter didn’t hear him. He was sent a letter by my lawyer to not come to my house.

Then he has someone else hand deliver this gift he’s asking for back. His gifts were always massive in size. He was requested to send small gifts that could be posted through the letter box. This was over 3 years ago. I don’t have this gift anymore. I never gave her it and donated to a charity. I gave all the other gifts that he sent as requested by the judge that fit through letter box.

Anyway he has sent 2 msgs now asking for it back. He took my jewellery and all the toys me and my family bought our daughter when he left. I can’t believe he is asking for this back. He knows I never gave her this toy.

What should I say, it’s so long ago now he sent this toy,3 years?

She doesn't have it anymore, and even if she did he wouldn't get it back as it's hers. End of discussion.

No one is obligated to keep gifts forever.

Ex wants toy back he bought daughter over 3 years ago. What should I say?
No.

Even better.

Don’t engage. Advise him any further contact is harassment and if he ignores your request you will contact police

Can you afford to have a solicitor write to him instead of doing it yourself?

You don’t need to respond at all. It’s not about the gift, it’s about him trying to draw you back in and get back some control. Ignore it, and any messages other than contact.
If you have not done the Freedom Programme you should, if you have take another look. Call WA if you are struggling with how to deal with him now, they can help.

We talk only about arrangements for daughter and anything regarding her. I’ve not replied to him. He’s asked now when he can collect. I think he’s pissed as his child maintenance payment have just gone up and he can’t get out of it.

@MsPavlichenko thats exactly what I thought so have ignored so far.

This is not about a toy at all. I would not respond; radio silence from you needs to be maintained.

He is trying to hoover you back into his dysfunctional world in a further attempt to regain power and control over you. Ignore any and all such attempts to draw you back in.

Don't respond x

There's no need for you to say anything, but lots of points in favour of your silence.

He couldn't give a flying fig about the toy, it's all about power.
Even if your child still had it, he'd seriously take a toy from a child? He's trying to wield his 'power'. Tell him to go through a solicitor.

Another don’t respond agreement . He won’t be happy with any response

The toy in question is bright pink. He has said he wishes to exchange for one for his son (had another, a boy with a young lady). I’m not sure which world you can exchange a 3 year old toy!

Keep all of his messages, in case he's about to start kicking off again.

Yea, carry on ignoring. If for some reason you have to answer him eventually, you just say the truth! I dont have it anymore, gave it to charity.

Just ignore him. You owe him nothing.

I'd buy him another one and deliver it up his arse.

I’d just ignore him. Or potentially just say No.

just ignore him, nobody can be expected to keep a gift, let alone after 3 years. you don't have it, he is being an ass. nothing more to talk about here

@Graciebobcat its entirely possible as it was remote controlled!!! Lol

They are a strange species!

You could reply that you will give back the toy if he gives back all you jewellery. That would get rid of him.