My sister is older than me and we are really different. Always got on but never close. Past few years she has been more in touch and tends to only bother me when there's a problem. This got worse over time and I tried to dial it back a bit but it doesnt make much difference.
She was very clingy with parents and they tolerated it but they have been dead for years now.
Lately i have felt like the relationship is getting controlling. She constantly asks me where i am or what i am doing. She often drops emails like bait, saying bad things have happened but they never do, it is just to get me to listen to problems.
I want to share this convo from this evening, it shows how odd it is getting. She does not know my friend apart from in name and where she lives (she is quite locaL). How would this look to you? I do not wish to have issues with her and do care, but i feel so weird and hemmed in. Her responses seem over the top, but i am aware that she is really angry because I couldnt chat on phone.
HER: Hi have you got five mins to chat while a ask your opinion I can't text it as I would be at it for ages?
ME: a bit tied up at minute, katie turned up unannounced, been visiting her sister. A lot to catch up on!. No idea when she’s going .
probably would have to be email or text, im sorry about that, hope eveythings ok xxx
HER: Weird. how's she getting home? Do you think she is going to stay? Not like her.
HER (10 mins later): How the hell will Katie get back tonight on train? Strange!
HER (15 mins after that): Hi , is she not living at her own home?
ME : What do you mean?xxx
HER : Oh nothing it was just weird to me. Will leave you alone.
(The 'not like her' is particularly weird as she knows nothing about Katie).