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What makes somebody a serial cheat?

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TYb · 02/10/2023 07:40

Why do you think they do it?

Selfishness?
Ego?
Insecurity?
Immaturity?

Just pondering over my cereal why my DC's father was never 'able' to keep it in his pants.

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HoneyBadgerMom · 04/10/2023 14:06

campionsturges · 04/10/2023 08:49

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Yes, they will. And NPR is a disgustingly misogynistic organization. They also believe that womanhood is a costume and men make better women than women do.

Scream "misogynist" again, it's a very compelling argument for 40 week abortions.

Dayhee · 04/10/2023 14:30

My sister met a man through work. Nine years her senior. She was 23 at the time. He had already been married and was separated and living on and off with his affair woman but retaining his own home for having his kids. My sister foolishly started seeing him occasionally as he was a top bullshitter and handsome/charming.

He led her a merry dance for 3 years while he was still with this woman and also slept with 2 other people during this time which came to light. My sister eventually got “her man” when his OW dumped him. Why she carried on seeing him I don’t know after finding out what he did (one of the two was her friend and colleague from work) but she did and they later married although only after much persuasion from her.

After 20 years of being with him, she found out that had carried on seeing his ex affair partner on and off for 12 years of that, had slept with his ex wife and had numerous other affairs with women he met online.

The bizarre thing is he is absolutely loved by anyone who meets him and everyone thinks he is a great guy. He is actually a good dad ( if that is possible for this type of man) and his kids adore him but he is a dreadful partner and husband. She is still stupidly with him as he has her hooked and now just accepts that this is who he is and she can’t expect Fidelity. They don’t sleep together anymore so he probably still shags other women.

He had a very troubled childhood and hated his mother though so no doubt stems from that.

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Mountaineer0009 · 05/10/2023 16:38

Dayhee · 04/10/2023 14:30

My sister met a man through work. Nine years her senior. She was 23 at the time. He had already been married and was separated and living on and off with his affair woman but retaining his own home for having his kids. My sister foolishly started seeing him occasionally as he was a top bullshitter and handsome/charming.

He led her a merry dance for 3 years while he was still with this woman and also slept with 2 other people during this time which came to light. My sister eventually got “her man” when his OW dumped him. Why she carried on seeing him I don’t know after finding out what he did (one of the two was her friend and colleague from work) but she did and they later married although only after much persuasion from her.

After 20 years of being with him, she found out that had carried on seeing his ex affair partner on and off for 12 years of that, had slept with his ex wife and had numerous other affairs with women he met online.

The bizarre thing is he is absolutely loved by anyone who meets him and everyone thinks he is a great guy. He is actually a good dad ( if that is possible for this type of man) and his kids adore him but he is a dreadful partner and husband. She is still stupidly with him as he has her hooked and now just accepts that this is who he is and she can’t expect Fidelity. They don’t sleep together anymore so he probably still shags other women.

He had a very troubled childhood and hated his mother though so no doubt stems from that.

seems in this case it could be debated that the love was more important overall and or having him as a partner ment more than him being faithfull ?

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