What makes somebody a serial cheat?

[TYb]

Why do you think they do it?

Selfishness?
Ego?
Insecurity?
Immaturity?

Just pondering over my cereal why my DC's father was never 'able' to keep it in his pants.

Which bit are you wrong about? The bit where you advocate for open relationships in spite of the topic being about men who have agreed to be in monogamous relationships whilst hypocritically shagging around, all the while expecting their partners to remain faithful, or the bit where you called everyone nazis dir disagreeing with you?

@CandyLeBonBon

I responded and then another poster made me realise

My ideas are a bit out there, but I realised that if a person has agreed to commit then they should commit. I went off on a bit of a tangent

I wonder what did he say to excuse or hide his past

Many don't realise they can't connect to a partner as a whole person, so they go through life continuously falling into a pattern of falling in love, realising the person isn't "perfect", cheating, and round and round.

@Ghostjail - that's very perceptive, on the 'archetypes' and the whole person. I think that's my ExH.

@PaintedEgg

It's really interesting, because my ex would paint me as this kind of person

And

I would definitely paint her as another kind of person

Who should we believe?

Your ideas aren't 'out there' at all. You're really not some enlightened thinker here. There's nothing original in your comment but you seem to be of the opinion that you've said something groundbreaking. You haven't!

From who?

@CandyLeBonBon

Don't get me wrong. I don't think anything.

Sometimes people just don't like me 🤷🏾‍♂️

If I could stick my nose in, 😉maybe start a thread to talk about polygamy if that's what you want to discuss. This thread is asking why some people are serial cheaters. "Cheaters" aren't practicing ethical anything. They're liars who enjoy making a fool of someone by tricking them into thinking they care about someone other than themselves.

What does "I'm not going to respond any more" mean?

@HoneyBadgerMom
I admitted I was wrong 1000 threads ago

Mumsnet for Ya!

@Loubelle70

Lack of sisterhood

Because serial cheaters are forced to cheat by women?

Then called everyone Nazis and then said the thread is full of abusive women...

Had a conversation with a woman that says she is the worst feminist ever.

Women are so Terrible to each other?

Surely you should stick together?

My experience is you don't?

Who's attacking you though? I don't see anyone attacking you? Responding robustly to your less pleasant comments, definitely- but no one here is abusing or attacking you.

Let me guess: you called everyone Nazis for disagreeing with you and now I'm guessing you think this is just a bunch of "emotional women," that about the size of it?

Always the victim.

Yeah I couldn't work out how the 'sisterhood' was relevant either? Maybe that pp will come back and explain?

@CandyLeBonBon

I'm suuuuuuch a victim. I'm so poor. Please Sir ABUSE Me some more?

Eh? I not sure why you're tagging me. I haven't once referred to you as a victim

"What makes somebody a serial cheater?"

Not being able to keep it in their pants the second anything with a pulse looks in their direction.

No self control. No moral compass. Hedonism. Attention seeking. Validation. Insecurity. Sex addiction. Avoidant.

Fair enough if they don't want to be tied down (oo-err) or in a committed relationship. But why get in one in the first place if all they want to do is shag about?

@CandyLeBonBon

My apologies

@DatingDinosaur

I agree, but does this apply to women too or just men?