What has a guy done that instantly made you lose interest?

[LusaBatoosa]

The ones that spring to mind:

• Thought Jordan Peterson 'had some interesting ideas.
• Used 'female' as a noun.
• Let me pay half. I always offered, but if you let me, there would be no second date.
• Really poor spelling and grammar. Not the occasional mistake or lapse (we all make them), practicaly unintelligible messages.
• Said he 'wasn't a reader'
• Was a picky eater.
• Was teetotal.
• Was religious.
• Wore a chain.
• Didn't drink water.

The dating pool has pee in it and, on top of that, I'm fairly unreasonable. I'm very happy I met my husband. 🤣

Farting on my or close to me and not caring🤢

Wearing white jeans 😬

Saying 'lets have a potter around' 🙄

Not brushing teeth 😐

Being disrespectful to people 😞

Sponging off people 😑

Saying things like 'this is a great value for money '! 🥱

Skids 💩

Uneducated comments 🥱

Racist 😬

Thank god I met my husband, he's swell 🥰

But surely you must understand that if you give your view on something then people are going to discuss it.

If I said I don’t date anyone who’s left handed, I’m sure I’d get a lot of responses.

That’s what a forum is, even if I found their responses boring.

Perhaps just ignore the ones you find boring.

But why would I base my decisions on what other women earn, not on what I do?

That makes no sense at all.

Wearing white jeans 😬

@MrsTarentino

What is it with white jeans??

I love white jeans and they look amazing on me and so they are my go to relaxed date wear and some guy said the same thing!

I personally think I dodged a bullet but I don’t understand what the problem was still.

So I was just curious why this would put people off an otherwise decent person.

Then you could have just asked that. You wrote several paragraphs on why you disagreed with someone else’s dealbreaker, instead. You’ve done it twice now.

Given subsequent posts it does seem that way.

If I’d restricted myself to men earning more than me that’d have been a very small pool.

I repeat: I have resolved to tend to my own business and let them tend to theirs.

That’s so sad. ☹️

Will do. 👍🏽

This happened to me as a guy.

I met a girl from OLD and upon seeing her, I said she looked beautiful.

She said at the end of the date that she wasn't interested in seeing me again because clearly I was just interested in appearance. (From that one comment... I didn't endlessly conpliment her throughout)

I did ask.

I asked why it was a deal breaker and how it affects someone’s relationship.

I explained that for me it wouldn’t be a deal breaker as it has no effect on me at all, which some turn offs have a direct or indirect effect, so I understand them but I didn’t understand this one which is why I asked.

I also asked what it is about white jeans which some people seem to hate.

I’m allowed to ask questions.

My mother always said 'never marry a man with a beard, and DEFINITELY don't have children with him, unless you've seen him without his beard first.'

Wise words. Some men look soooooo much better with a beard, and there's a reason for that! 😬(As your post illustrates!)

Relaxed? I don't think I could relax wearing white jeans! One splash of red wine or splat of spaghetti bolognaise and outfit ruined! You're obviously much less clumsy than me.

I don't think white jeans look bad per se but I think if my date was wearing them I'd be in a state of anxiety by proxy that they'd spill something or sit in something mucky by accident! Have you seen that tik tok video where the woman gets peanut butter on the back of her (very nice) tight white shorts and goes all the way around the supermarket? Not a good look lol 😅

WHITE JEANS?! 😬 Just no!

That's a bit daft! I would have been annoyed with constant compliments all night, but after the 5th one, I would have said 'it's OK, you don't need to keep complimenting me!'

Sounds like you dodged a bullet with this one lass.

I dated a non-reader once, and it was awful as he found it annoying / rude when I wanted to read - and I'm a total bookworm. That one was doomed from the start…

A beard is like make up for men.

I too am always suspicious of men with beards and want to see what they’re like without them!

I think on dating profiles women should have a make up free picture and men should have a beard free picture 😁

I hadn’t even thought about that aspect!

@GoryBory it's white jeans on a man I don't like, I'm sure you look smashing in yours ☺️

Ahh maybe that was it, maybe he was just worried I was going to spill a drink of them lol.

It’s funny because I’ve heard it so many times from discussions like this and it actually put me off wearing them but no one could say why they didn’t like white jeans.

Although a saw a women in Asda the other day and she was wearing a pink t-shirt, white jeans and white canvas shoes.
She was 50+ and it was such a simple outfit but it just looked amazing on her and so I might try and see if that suits me too.

One insisted on paying the whole bill (while moaning about the cost of the food, which was a fairly normal restaurant price.) I prefer to go dutch and will not let anyone pay it all in future until we get onto a you pay one date, I pay another type basis.

Same guy- shagging and he said 'this is one for the wank bank.' 'How do you keep the figure of a 15 year old girl?' (said very appreciatively) was also kind of unnerving.

Mainly impotence has been my strongest dislike in recent years.

But now I think excessive talk of sex would be my complete turn off.

That makes sense to me.

And yes that would really annoy me too.

It wouldn’t be that he didn’t read, it would be that he doesn’t like me doing it and that’s a big red flag.

I did meet a man who thought he was too good for gaming and didn’t like people who game, which I do as he thought it made them seem stupid and so I guess it’s a similar thing.

Same guy- shagging and he said 'this is one for the wank bank.' 'How do you keep the figure of a 15 year old girl?' (said very appreciatively) was also kind of unnerving.

🤢🤢🤢

A beard free picture!