To not go on another date because of his car..

[bluebellmountain]

Met a guy OLD, we have been on 4 dates, twice we've met in public, once I picked him up to go out to eat and once I have been to his house. He seemed a great guy, we hit it off pretty quickly, I feel comfortable around him, he seems genuine and kind. Own house, good job etc.

I was out after work this evening to say goodbye to a colleague moving on, so id got a lift to work and was planning on getting a taxi home. This guy text to ask how I was etc and turns out he was nearby and heading to the gym so offered to drop me home, I was excited to see him so agreed.

He arrives to pick me up and my heart sank, his car was fine, a mondeo, pretty standard car but it had been modified to make that stupid noise when you accelerate, you know the kind of boy racer unnecessarily loud car. I got in and said wow that's rather noisy and he gave me some explanation as to what had been done to the car, how much it cost etc.. and it's really really put me off him.

I'm 35, he's 38, surly we're far too old to be driving round in a car like that. I was actually embarrassed to be in the car with everyone looking at every bang it made.

Am I an awful person, should I look past this? He was being nice and doing me a favour and all I could think of was getting out of there! Would this put you off someone who, granted I don't know well, but seems to be pretty good in every other area.

@PyongyangKipperbang Interesting. I agree band says a lot about a person but I don't think restaurant and cuisine have much to do with it.

I understand the whole team of cyclists but you sound pretty entitled to think a single horse or cyclist is inconveniencing you just by existing on a shared use road. Probably tells a lot about the mentality of men with noisy cars and cementing the reason it would put many of us off

That was a direct response to a question from another poster, it wasn’t directed at the OP.

@RealisticGuy but whats the purpose in improving the cars performance and increase the noise level when most the time you're driving round, hopefully complying to the speed limit. If it was for a hobby such as racing etc then fair enough but driving to work, on a 30mph road?! Isn't it like having all the fancy fishing kit to get a goldfish out the garden pond?? Unnecessary.

And, my son is autistic and these types of cars absolutely petrify him. Whenever one passes us I have to spend the next 15 minutes calming the mother of all meltdowns, so it irritates me a lot as it scares my child. It scares a lot of children.

I also assume you'd know if this guy had a performance car hobby or passion. He'd be likely to have mentioned it: Doesn't sound to be the case here?! My neighbour has a loud car although at least it's a powerful BMW that does come like that but he extra refs it every time he starts it right outside my window which make me irrationally cross. Then revs away unnecessarily fast for a cul de sac with children before steadily and much more quietly proceeding up the street. He obviously just likes the sound but the rest of us don't 🙄

@LovingMyLiver...sat in a cafe...nearly spit out my drink when I read that 🤣

Tbh I think his car is lame but if you otherwise really liked him I think it's a silly thing to not date someone over.

It seems car enthusiasts are a foreign breed to the average MNetter. I don't even drive, but a man with a car like that most certainly would not be a turn-off. There are lots of car enthusiasts where I live, men and women, so I find it a bit odd that the majority on this thread seem to be so horrified by it.

One noisy Mondeo does not an enthusiast make! 😆.

@RealisticGuy There is still a difference between a car enthusiast and a modder.

If the intention of removing the silencing baffles enhances performance why hasn't some sort of alternative soundproofing been invented to mitigate this because surely it must be embarrassing to have such a well maintained, lovely car sounding like a clapped out banger?

My friend - car mechanic and car ENTHUSIAST loves to hear the purr of a well tuned engine. He doesn't sit revving the bollocks off it in maccy d's car park or tear-arsing it down the main road doing clunky gear changes that sound like a gasket has blown. The only performance that sort of thing is enhancing is decibels.

So car enthusiast = great. Car modder = attention seeking idiot, in my mind.

Sorry OP for derailing your thread. Hope your next meeting with this guy gives you the clarity you're wanting.

@DatingDinosaur there are some exhaust systems that are louder than others, but be their very nature of how they work the only thing you can do to quieten them is by restricting their performance, so it’s a catch 22.

There is an awful lot of assumption that this man is sitting revving his car in McDonalds. I would very much doubt a man of that age is doing so.

There are performance models of Mondeo’s, hell there are even performance models of god awful Nissan Jukes that you see 2 a penny of on the school run in their generic base model form.

I don’t condone unnecessarily loud cars either, or anti social behaviour. But having a performance exhaust on your car doesn’t automatically make you an attention seeking idiot, despite the assumption many of the posters are jumping too.

Imagine if I said that all women that get Botox or go to the gym are vain and only do it for what others think. Totally ridiculous, there are many different motivations for things in life.

Let the man enjoy his Mondeo lol

edit to add, the popping and banging of the exhaust can actually be part of the factory tune of high performance cars.

A bmw m4 competition does it, as do the lesser M135i which to the untrained eye looks no different than a normal 1 series.

Imagine if I said that all women that get Botox or go to the gym are vain and only do it for what others think. Totally ridiculous, there are many different motivations for things in life.

Your analogies are shit and these last two are very goady. Your responses back up why many of us women would not continue to date anyone with a Mondeo and a banging exhaust!

Absolutely no one except the owners of cars with modified exhausts and others like them, wants to to startled by that loud revving, bang and pop noises on the street. Totally selfish and anti-social. There is a time and a place for everything. Take it down the bloody race track.

And I like cars. Naice cars.

Really?? According to the DVLA database there are nearly 220,000 Mondeo's still licensed and on UK roads with an additional 50'000 SORN'd.

PP are checking the DVLA database now 🤣

It's a mondeo. It's a suburban commuter car. It doesn't need to "perform". It's loud and obnoxious for the sake of being loud and obnoxious.

Ear plugs are your friend OP. Please do come back and tell us how the date went 😂

Ear plugs will not remove the embarrassment 😂

Out of curiosity given the statement from the quoted poster & my father in law owning a Mondeo.
I fully agree that “chaving” up a Mondeo at 38 seems a little immature but if we are going to deride someone we could at least get the facts right?

You're right. Let's add some big dark shades so she doesn't get recognised 😂

Amazing the things we need go through just to get laid 😂

You’re right. It’s always good to have access to the facts. I just found your post funny.

I’ve seen lots of Mondeo’s in and around London. Tends to be older people driving them. Not boy racers with modified exhausts.

😂😂

Jealous?

Hahahahahaha

I think of have to ask him how long he'd had it, and then mention how childish it was so I'd assumed you must have had it for a long time. How is the sorry of thing someone in their early 20s would do.

And see what he said.

I'd also say the noise frightened me.

Well given that he gave OP a long explanation of what had 'been done' to the car and how much it cost I highly doubt that this is a 'performance model.' If it was why would it need any more mods?

Being loud and obnoxious to compensate for something else... :)

FYI botox and the gym don't affect anybody else! Unlike stupidly loud cars.

It would put me right off.