If you’re divorced, do you regret it?

[Magicmouses]

Facing a possible divorce right now and wondering how many women regret it, down the line? If you could go back, would you stay married?

@OrangeTeabags

Ok I should have said only having them 50% of the time.

Never for a moment.

What I do miss though is not having someone in my life to reminisce with about my son’s childhood. There is no one else I can say “do you remember when he was 6 and made that funny Lego video” to etc because it was stuff that mostly only he and I shared.

A regret, if I have one is that I haven’t been a lifelong one man woman. I met my first boyfriend at 17, split at 22 and I wish I’d tried harder. I was very young of course and had a few fun years after that break up of playing the field before getting married to my ex. But I am jealous of those people my age who are now celebrating 30 years married and are genuinely happy.

@Gentleray I get that- it's the shared memory's ( good ones) that can be a bit of a downer- easier I guess if you have none

My family put me under a lot of pressure to get married. I went through with it even though I knew he was vile.
He was worse than even I knew.

My only regret is that I didn't stop it before the wedding.

It wasted 5 years of my life, I was in my 20s and whilst I know that some people say that your 20s are your best years, my best years have been all of the years since I divorced.

FWIW my family don't speak to me anymore and I'm fine with it.

Not divorced but my long-term relationship and my most serious relationship to date ended last year.

Every aspect of my life is improved by no longer being in that relationship - I am thriving.

Not an ounce of regret.

Nope. They may be happier than they were when they were married but they are either worried about what they've done to their kids or worried about money or harbour a huge amount of anger and resentment.

About half of my friends are divorced. None of them are over it or ever will be. They go on about it whenever we meet even though in some cases it's been over 15 years.

I don't regret splitting up from my ex even when I was broke and lonely but I regret him. I wished I'd picked a better person. I thought I would grow old with the father of my DS.

But I've been better off financially and emotionally without him. It's just if I had had a better person I would be in a much more secure place now.

Ah, that makes more sense @capstix

I thought you were saying no one is happier single, which would be absurd and why you received the reaction you did from posters.

What you meant was that none of your friends are, which to be fair to you, you did actually say. Which is very possible. Finances are a big thing. I know so many of my friends that would love to be divorced but simply can't afford it. It's a luxury and privilege I guess.

Not for a second but I was the higher earner.