Heartbroken - husband scared off my crush

[Lou153Lou]

My husband has some inheritance and he lives off it. Not enough to be frivolous.

He doesn’t do anything or see anyone from one day to the next. No interests. We have nothing to talk about and I find him pathetic and unattractive in his idleness and insecurities.

I feel like I’ve tried everything. Advice, honesty, suggestions, opportunities… even tender affection but he thinks its a green light for him masterbating in me.

We get this builder in for several months and long story short, he fancies me and eventually lets me know it.

I don’t find him physically attractive at all but he’s alpha and fit and chasing me.

Compliments and suggestive comments. I’m not sure I believe it - who would fancy me at nearly 40?! He’s seen me dog rough too.

I’m suddenly excited about getting dressed into something nice, a bit of make up, new bras.

It all feels safe. Nothing in common, rarely alone together and nothing sexually explicit. We’re never going to fall in love.

I didn’t hide my developing friendship from my husband but excluded the flirtation bit.

I started getting messages from him. Tried including my husband. How’s your day been type things, music interests, pretty boring but they made me smile.

Husband must have seen me smiling too much… suddenly completely exploded at me. Next thing he’s messaged the builder and exploded at him.

Immediately the builder has drop kicked me and I’m heartbroken. Not even checked I’m ok.

He’s turned ultra professional. Cold.

I get it, no drama, but I’m so fucking miserable without him showing an interest.

It’s not even the builder really. The worst thing is that I don’t think I’ll ever feel like that again. Desired. No one will ever notice me.

I wish we’d kissed. I wish we’d had a fumble. I wish I’d got chance to run my hands over his rock hard arms and chest.

I’ve thought about divorce but for what? My life is fine, children happy, no worries.

I only needed a secret flirty friend and my life would have been complete and now my husband had ruined that and I resent him even more for it.

My husband asked how I’d feel if it was him and my honest thought was relieved. I’d invite her and her family around for dinner!

Can anyone relate? Similar stories to share? Broken hearted within a secure marriage? Feeling forty?

Is this the new thread akin to the one where the wife wanted to wear her ballgown and was unhappy with the holiday her husband took her on and the jewels he bought her? That was a corker.

Do grow up OP.

I once bought a Take a Break as I had nothing to read on the bus. One of the front page stories was "Battle over sex god" and inside was the story of these two women doing the pick me dance over this guy whose photo showed him wearing a leather jacket that he couldn't fasten and stuffing a burger in his trap.

😂

I hope this Op is ok.

Can I just say, why on earth wouldn't he find you attractive at nearly 40!? I'm 38 and look better than I ever have. It's sad you have that view of yourself, that only youth can be attractive? Who has filled your head with that garbage.
Or this isn't true..

Well I'm well past 40 and I got pipped at by a passing truck driver tonight. So there's hope for you yet OP.

I’m still sniggering childishly at “filling the cracks”, “mooning” and then someone who’s in it for the “happy ending”

Is this not a plotline on Motherland?

You sound like you're 60. Your life is not over at 40, leave him and live your life.

This can't be real, ive been in stitches reading it!

Bloody hell I hope my life isn’t over by sixty either!

Bloody hell I hope my life isn’t over by sixty either!

Sorry, my bad! Of course not, I was just trying to highlight that OP was being a tad dramatic 🤣

I see your 'lorry driver pip' and I raise you a 'alright milf' whilst walking across the road from the cinema with 2 of my 3 children holding my hand. I was 41. Please acknowledge my early middle aged gorgeousness, oh lesser being.

Wtf 😆

Just new bras? What about new sexy knickers? Matching sets?