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Heartbroken - husband scared off my crush

140 replies

Lou153Lou · 22/08/2023 06:13

My husband has some inheritance and he lives off it. Not enough to be frivolous.

He doesn’t do anything or see anyone from one day to the next. No interests. We have nothing to talk about and I find him pathetic and unattractive in his idleness and insecurities.

I feel like I’ve tried everything. Advice, honesty, suggestions, opportunities… even tender affection but he thinks its a green light for him masterbating in me.

We get this builder in for several months and long story short, he fancies me and eventually lets me know it.

I don’t find him physically attractive at all but he’s alpha and fit and chasing me.

Compliments and suggestive comments. I’m not sure I believe it - who would fancy me at nearly 40?! He’s seen me dog rough too.

I’m suddenly excited about getting dressed into something nice, a bit of make up, new bras.

It all feels safe. Nothing in common, rarely alone together and nothing sexually explicit. We’re never going to fall in love.

I didn’t hide my developing friendship from my husband but excluded the flirtation bit.

I started getting messages from him. Tried including my husband. How’s your day been type things, music interests, pretty boring but they made me smile.

Husband must have seen me smiling too much… suddenly completely exploded at me. Next thing he’s messaged the builder and exploded at him.

Immediately the builder has drop kicked me and I’m heartbroken. Not even checked I’m ok.

He’s turned ultra professional. Cold.

I get it, no drama, but I’m so fucking miserable without him showing an interest.

It’s not even the builder really. The worst thing is that I don’t think I’ll ever feel like that again. Desired. No one will ever notice me.

I wish we’d kissed. I wish we’d had a fumble. I wish I’d got chance to run my hands over his rock hard arms and chest.

I’ve thought about divorce but for what? My life is fine, children happy, no worries.

I only needed a secret flirty friend and my life would have been complete and now my husband had ruined that and I resent him even more for it.

My husband asked how I’d feel if it was him and my honest thought was relieved. I’d invite her and her family around for dinner!

Can anyone relate? Similar stories to share? Broken hearted within a secure marriage? Feeling forty?

OP posts:
WandaWonder · 22/08/2023 07:05

Reading it again does the husband go by the name Prince Andrew?

Mikimoto · 22/08/2023 07:06

Do you also live near a windswept Cornish moor?
And tend to ride horses, preferably semi-naked?

icelollycraving · 22/08/2023 07:08

Too much Motherland Julia?

Kimbo1974 · 22/08/2023 07:09

Was about to say sounds like the episode of motherland I watched last night

DatingDinosaur · 22/08/2023 07:10

No sympathy whatsoever. Get over it.

ZickZack · 22/08/2023 07:13

Sounds like the plot of a tacky novel

GerbilTrainerExtraordinaire2 · 22/08/2023 07:14

Just leave your husband? Your life and kids will be even better

BanditsOnTheHorizon · 22/08/2023 07:14

Maybe take up a creative writing course to fill some of your time?

Olika · 22/08/2023 07:18

This is a joke right?

Sausagedogmum · 22/08/2023 07:21

Surely this isn’t real?

ErniesGhostlyGoldTops · 22/08/2023 07:22

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This.

This can't be real. If it is, it diminishes us with real actual problems.

Custardslices · 22/08/2023 07:22

I'd be coming out of the shower naked to get his attention with a innocent ooppss didn't realise you were here.

Divorce then go get your man

Mummysgogetter · 22/08/2023 07:23

Find another flirty side piece to replace the builder

Turmerictolly · 22/08/2023 07:23

AI

drpet49 · 22/08/2023 07:23

AuntieEsther · 22/08/2023 06:18

Get divorced FFS. Mooning over the builder is ridiculous.

This.

Redglitter · 22/08/2023 07:23

Can anyone relate? Similar stories to share? Broken hearted within a secure marriage? Feeling forty

Would that be for your next book??

AgnesX · 22/08/2023 07:24

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Sincerely hope it's a story otherwise there's an extremely naive and immature nearly 40 year old out there.

Apart from anything else, the builder was working for them, to make their home better (I'm assuming) paid for by her husband and she's chucking herself at a workman, trying to do his job. Presumably he's lost money for this idiocy as well.

HelpMeGetThrough · 22/08/2023 07:24

I wish we’d kissed. I wish we’d had a fumble. I wish I’d got chance to run my hands over his rock hard arms and chest.

What's the name of his company, "Poldark and Son"?

FarEast · 22/08/2023 07:27

Leave your husband. Please …

SmileyClare · 22/08/2023 07:27

1.Preoccupy yourself with taking the dc out. It’s the school holidays right?

2.If you’ve had a builder working on your house for several months he won’t be doing the whole job on his own.
You’ll soon have other tradesman to fawn over and a reason to wear your “new bras”

TicTacNicNak · 22/08/2023 07:28

Sounds like a load of AI generated drivel I'm afraid.

FarEast · 22/08/2023 07:28

It’d make a more interesting novel.

Wilkolampshade · 22/08/2023 07:29

Isn't AI usually better written than this?

WandaWonder · 22/08/2023 07:29

SmileyClare · 22/08/2023 07:27

1.Preoccupy yourself with taking the dc out. It’s the school holidays right?

2.If you’ve had a builder working on your house for several months he won’t be doing the whole job on his own.
You’ll soon have other tradesman to fawn over and a reason to wear your “new bras”

Not sure it is the house the OP wants working on, shudder

anyolddinosaur · 22/08/2023 07:29

Troll hunting is not permitted. There is a report button with a "not a genuine poster" for anyone who wants to use it.

OP leave your husband, he deserves better.