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He just deleted me .. what happened?

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wonderfyl · 20/08/2023 09:09

Chatting to a guy on line for last ten days.
Suggested we exchange numbers and photos of me. I don't have profile pics up for work reasons. He ignored that suggestion.
A few more days passed.
Last night, I suggested we wrap this thing up as I felt he was looking for a pen pal and I'm not . He said he'd like to meet so I replied with a suggestion of exchanging numbers again. I also said that his own Profile pics may not even be his own I woke up this morning and he has deleted the conversation and me ...
What the hell????

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Flipflipmania · 20/08/2023 09:11

Bored
second thoughts
never really in to it

StuffLoriThangs · 20/08/2023 09:12

Sometimes online stuff just fizzles out. Just move on.

Zanatdy · 20/08/2023 09:12

You’ve probably called him out and it’s not his photo, or he was very offended by your suggestion and deleted you. I personally wouldn’t even start chatting to someone with no photo on, weird how he didn’t want to exchange photos. Anyway, you’re better off out of it. Why I can’t face OD. I signed up briefly at Easter and lasted 2 days. Thinking of a local speed dating, but not sure! It’s scary out there

Flipflipmania · 20/08/2023 09:12

he ignored your suggestion to exchange photos and numbers

which was your heads up he wasn’t interested

ZolaBudd · 20/08/2023 09:13

Married

Flipflipmania · 20/08/2023 09:13

You don’t have any photos uploaded

but he also doesn’t have any?

Icedlatteplease · 20/08/2023 09:13

I also said that his own Profile pics may not even be his own

Possibly you hit the nail on the head. Either way that'd a creepy comment. Would put me off

supercali77 · 20/08/2023 09:14

He wanted to meet but not give you either a photo or a number. Bad intentions.

Flipflipmania · 20/08/2023 09:15

Can’t say I’d be too inclined to meet someone who was questioning whether my profile pics were my own

And how would you know if you did exchange - that those were authentic

Flipflipmania · 20/08/2023 09:16

He did Post profile photos

you didn’t post profile photos

you then ask for more pics as proof they he is actually as per photos

I wouldn’t meet you!

Flipflipmania · 20/08/2023 09:17

supercali77 · 20/08/2023 09:14

He wanted to meet but not give you either a photo or a number. Bad intentions.

I would never ever give my number out to an OLD before meeting him for the first time

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wonderfyl · 20/08/2023 09:19

There was something off about him . His texts were so rigid, boring and literal. I suggested sharing my photos. He didn't want to do why keep chatting for days after if not interested?
Then when I suggested wrapping it all up he said I really want to meet and hopefully meet again afterwards , which I found odd.

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supercali77 · 20/08/2023 09:21

@Flipflipmania I always did, I could always just block the person (and frequently did 😂)

Flipflipmania · 20/08/2023 09:21

So why on earth did you want to meet him?

I suspect that if you don’t post a profile pics..: you really will get the gutter of OLD

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wonderfyl · 20/08/2023 09:21

If he didn't want to exchange numbers , I Wouk's have thought he would have suggested another means of sharing. He didn't. I was not going to go on a date with a man who had no idea what I liked like . I'm wondering why he didn't ??

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supercali77 · 20/08/2023 09:21

'His texts were so rigid, boring and literal'

I'm kinda curious why you carried on talking to him? 😂

WhineWhineWhineWINE · 20/08/2023 09:21

I think married too

Catlord · 20/08/2023 09:22

2 ppints: he sounds like a time waster but also I would be put off if someone suggested my pics weren't genuine especially if theirs weren't provided. Did you also say he was behaving like he was looking for a pen pal too? I think you should have decided to continue chatting or not and stuck to it but not start accusing him of stuff.

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wonderfyl · 20/08/2023 09:23

I found the whole thing intriguing. Robotic texts at times and then he would take an interest in a previous message. Whole thing was odd .
Regarding phone numbers ... they're easily blocked and deleted if needed.

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Flipflipmania · 20/08/2023 09:25

wonderfyl · 20/08/2023 09:23

I found the whole thing intriguing. Robotic texts at times and then he would take an interest in a previous message. Whole thing was odd .
Regarding phone numbers ... they're easily blocked and deleted if needed.

What I find intriguing is you continuing engaging with him

Catlord · 20/08/2023 09:26

If you're looking to meet someone don't waste time on this kind of shit.

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wonderfyl · 20/08/2023 09:26

Rather than ' accusing' him I asked why did he not want to exchange photos , surely we would want to see what each other were like physically without posed photographs graphs to ensure they were authentic.

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GoingGoingUp · 20/08/2023 09:27

Wish online dating, you’re one of many he will be speaking to. Sounds like he wasn’t that keen in the first place but was keeping you open as an option, and then probably decided you’re too much hard work with the the request for photos and a phone number, so deleted you.

It’s nothing personal - online dating just means there’s lots of options and you’re one of many. It’s a brutal world, I hated it.

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wonderfyl · 20/08/2023 09:28

I thought he was very handsome in his photos .. although a friend did comment that he looked like a ski instructor on a catalogue, it was so staged , in her view.Confused

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Flipflipmania · 20/08/2023 09:28

wonderfyl · 20/08/2023 09:26

Rather than ' accusing' him I asked why did he not want to exchange photos , surely we would want to see what each other were like physically without posed photographs graphs to ensure they were authentic.

He had photos already on his profile !

he wasn’t bothered about seeing yours because anyone who starts engaging with someone without a profile pic (you) is going to be pretty… desperate