Whose behavior is worse?

[karlaka]

She scratches him in the back during sex. He gives her a slap on the cheek.

In your opinion, is he allowed to do that? Whose behavior is worse? Who is wrong here?

Was it a hard slap?

Why are you asking if you've already made up your mind?

Would you say it's a good reason to never see the person again?

OP, why ask if you don’t want to hear opinions contrary to yours?

so, now you say you scratched him so
hard he reacted by slapping you? Not good to slap, but bloody hell, how hard did you scratch him?

Regardless of who’s ‘worse’ your attitude would result in instant dumping from me.

I have not made up my mind. I'm just showing the differences here

I think you are minimizing the scratching- were you marking your territory?

It probably hurt a little when I scratched him, but it didn't leave marks or anything

I was not, all other men enjoyed it so far

This is very confusing, have you been slapped in a sexual way during?
or have you been slapped in an aggressive way as a reaction to your scratching?

How deep were the scratches and do you have sharp/false nails?

Neither is OK if neither person is happy.

You scratch lots of men?

It felt more like a weird reaction after slapping him.

Slap is worse. Scratch is kind of just an accidental by product of the action of sex as against a deliberate slap across the face

Not deep, a little rough, but I didn't leave marks

So you’ve slapped him? After you’ve scratched him

If you caused someone pain they weren’t expecting and they reacted with a slap, I don’t think you are blameless. If the slap was very hard, I’d say that’s worse. If it was a swat, I think you’re even, though I’d tend to say you’re more in the wrong for scratching someone out of nowhere.

I think both of you need to grow up!

Neither is worse… treat people with respect, don’t hurt them unless agree before hand. If you don’t like his behaviour stop having sex with him it’s very very simple

Jeez I’d be furious if I scratched someone’s back during sex and got a slap around the face. That would be the end of that. Interestingly my friend used to love scratching up men in her 20’s, don’t think it was agreed up front, and she thought it was funny but she had really long nails so bet it hurt and I saw some of the wounds! Not pretty

If you’re trying to find a different man who’s just wanting sex and no relationship (as you said that’s what you’re doing with this bloke) you’d be absolutely deluged with options within an instant of going online. No need to ponder and analyse this one.

You can’t hurt someone during sex unless you’ve obtained consent! It doesn’t matter what other men have said.

If the scratch hurt, you can bet it did leave a mark.

Gentle scratches that don't hurt, don't.

He slapped me after I scratched him

Yes it’s a reason to not see him again. Aggressive response. But you shouldn’t be scratching someone because someone else enjoyed it.

So you scratched him during sex and he slapped you in response?

I wouldn't see him again. What he should have done was say "what the fuck? I don't like that" and dumped you. Slapping you was way out of line.

But what you did was wrong too - find out what a guy likes in bed before doing it to him. Consent is everything.