Would you understand his reasons and be able to forgive him

[karlaka]

My current boyfriend and I have been dating for several months (5 months) and were in a 'relationship' (for 3 months) - because I had 'forced' it through an ultimatum.

After 9 months (6 months of dating, 3 months of 'official relationship'), one night, he then confessed to me that he had just broken up with his long-distance relationship. She lived 5 hours away, and they saw each other about once a month. He took full responsibility for not ending it in a timely manner.
When I asked him why it took him so long, even though he was unhappy before we met, he said he was probably too afraid to see her cry. He mentioned that having difficult conversations with her was always hard because she would immediately start crying. Additionally, he felt somewhat embarrassed in front of her family, as they had always treated him well and it felt like a home and a second family to him. His ex-girlfriend also had massive OCDs which further strained the relationship.

Do you understand his reasons for delaying the breakup for so long?

In my position, would you be able to forgive these reasons and continue a relationship with him?

Well I assume the men were different but other than that exactly as you describe.

Worst case scenario he’s a common garden liar out to get what he wants with no remorse. He’s capable of lying to peoples faces. And he monkey branched.

Best case scenario he hates confrontation.

Neither are good partner material.

You are unmarried, no house owned together, no children together. Run like the wind.

Typical reasons for not leaving his partner.

I never loved her. She had mental health issues. Her grandmother was in hospital with a broken toe. She is crazeeeey. She was going to commit suicide so I had to stay (and shag her).

Its pathetic and shows you his integrity and character. He’s low value let him go. Love is never enough to make a relationship work. Especially this early on. You have doubts listen to them.