How does this message read ? Want to be sure we're on same page

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but I just want to be 100% clear this time so there’s no room for confusion or upset again!!! And we’re on the same page.

I know you have loads going on and I really do understand that but I do want to spend some time with you and maybe get the occasional date/wine & chill 😉 night when time allows!! If we can go back to how it was a few weeks back with our usual contact (I’m not happy I haven’t had my good morning text in the last month 😔and I hate feeling like I shouldn’t text… never used to worry about it before) and seeing each other when we can then great I’m all for it 😍

I know you can’t give me everything/a lot at present and if all you can do for the moment is more casual then I’m happy to just be “seeing you” but… if I’m seeing/sleeping with someone regularly for a prolonged period of time then I do expect the same respect, exclusivity and loyalty that I’m giving them, because you will 100% be getting it from me.

But please be perfectly clear that if you are talking, dating, sleeping with others then I can NOT do this! You know I like you a lot and I don’t deserve to be hurt like that. I am a really really good person who doesn’t sleep around and deserves more than that.

Obviously I know you’ve recently signed up to bumble so if I’m not enough to keep you happy and satisfied 🤷‍♀️ and your intention is just to have me on the side while your looking for what you do want or just to sleep with as many girls as you can then I can not do this!!!! So the kindest thing you could do in that instance would be not to reply to this, block me and just let me get over you xx

@LavenderLaughs , I think I love you. Bloody marvellous response

I agree with other posters. Radically edit it down and lose the emojis and excessive exclamation marks. As it stands, it makes you sound about 15, and exhausting.

No don't send that. I think you are giving mixed signals. In the first half of the message you are saying it's fine if all he wants is to "see each other" casually. Then later you go on to say it's not fine for him to talk/see/sleep with other people. Seeing someone causally usually means you are not exclusive and can date other people. What are you actually trying to tell him OP?

No, don’t send it (it’s far too long anyway- no bloke is reading that!). Don’t say it if you see him either. Men are fuckheads!

When it’s the right one you won’t have to grovel.

LOVE!!

He's not that into you - no not send.

Do NOT send that desperate, needy plea to be treated like a dishrag. Send this instead:

”It’s become very clear to me that we want very different things. No hard feelings, but I won’t be in touch again.”

Then block.

Good grief, I've sent my fair share of cringe inducing messages but even I draw the line at this one OP.
It is one of them messages that will give you sleepless nights in years to come when it pops into your head and you recoil in cringe.

Do not under any circumstances send that message.

How does anybody expect sexism to stop with generalised insults like this still being hurled around?

Some men are fuckheads, yes. Some women are too.

He's just not that into you. Do not send!

For maximum dignity, don't send anything at all. Just block. Now.

Just walk away.

That message is horribly needy and manipulative.

You shouldn’t have to ask someone to treat you well.

I think maybe you thought you were setting out your boundarieswith that message, but as someone said upthread, boundaries are not things that you tell other people, they are just things that you hold inside yourself.

I'm so sorry, OP, but this is the kind of message I used to send before spending years in therapy undoing some pretty codependent/neurotic behaviour.

Ooof OP. So much going on here.

Just let this one go. That message paints a picture of a desperate, confused woman. Everyone should be with someone who makes them feel valued and important, you don’t send messages like this to people who are making you feel as such.

It sounds like you need to do a lot of work on your self esteem and how you value yourself. Stay single for a while, build yourself up and then find someone who will do the same.

Too long and too desperate. I doubt it would even get read to the end.

Yikes, no! This is not the relationship for you.

Definitely don't send! Delete and move on as hard as it is!

It reads like something you are going to regret later down the line.
Best thing to do is block and move on.

Either block and get on with your life or if you must message

Hi, letting you know i think it's time to call time on this arrangement as we appear to be on different pages.

I'd love to know if none of you saying she's 'needy' have never ever pleaded with a man ever...your making valid points but go easy on the op. If she didn't have low self-esteem before she definitely will after reading these!!

That'll be to the external locus of evaluation we're trying to encourage her not to have...

Sounds desperate OP. If you don’t respect yourself then he won’t respect you. Just reply with ‘I’m not looking for something casual and I get the impression you are. I think we should leave it here.’ If he’s genuinely interested in a relationship he’ll let you know.

Delete, delete, delete. Don't beg.

He's an arsehole. Tell him to piss off