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Bf broke up with me bc I masturbated

147 replies

superwoman2326 · 26/07/2023 00:36

My bf and I have been having some arguments and bickering recently. This morning he had a go at me for not doing his laundry saying I only do mine and that I’m very transactional and have trauma from my previous marriage where I’m afraid someone will walk all over me. Hence I refuse to do laundry to prove a point and that no one can take advantage of me.

Anyway we talked it it out and sorted it. He was playing play station and when he went to the toilet for a while I got my womanizer out to relax a little. I told him about it after bc he saw me charging it and he lost the plot, said he’s done here and has gone to sleep in the other room. I didn’t refuse him sex after I got off. I was ready to have sex as the female anatomy permits multiple orgasms but he lost the plot and is so mad at me for masturbating?! I read this back and it sounds insane but that is literally what happened.

I feel sad and cannot believe this after 2.5 yrs together. Am I missing something?

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FrostieBoabby · 26/07/2023 18:36

ArcaneWireless · 26/07/2023 18:05

Sorry @FrostieBoabby

If it helps, I’ll excuse you from doing the shot on the womaniser actions….

I now imagine you nodding 😃

I was hoping the shot on the womanizer might take my mind of the tune for a few minutes, we'll as long as it takes to have a dump 🤣

FrostieBoabby · 26/07/2023 18:36

Stupid autocorrect 🙄

FlyingUnicornWings · 26/07/2023 18:36

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If AI wrote a Mumsnet post…

Cosycover · 26/07/2023 18:38

You do realise the Internet has a shit turn of porn right?

Off you pop....

Scrotox · 26/07/2023 18:40

You're off your trolley, OP.

Wheresmyrobe · 26/07/2023 18:52

I must say that I do appreciate posters like OP as these threads are always entertaining with all the replies.

How odd s/he hasn't been back..

ThereIbledit · 26/07/2023 19:05

fuck the tabloids who will use this as a lazy story.

marshmallowfinder · 26/07/2023 19:06

Ruffpuff · 26/07/2023 00:40

IN THE BIN WITH HIM

Daft expression. You don't put people 'in the bin'. How about call it a day with him or finish with him.

ThereIbledit · 26/07/2023 19:07

ikt's a colloquialism, @marshmallowfinder

WingBingo · 26/07/2023 19:08

You’ve never used a womaniser then 🤭

WingBingo · 26/07/2023 19:09

SleepingStandingUp · 26/07/2023 01:04

I mean I think it's a bit odd you thought ah I'll get myself off quickly whilst he's having a poo, Ivan orgasm faster than he can drop and wipe. But if he's dumping you over it, I'd say it's really something else and he's using it as an excuse, consciously or otherwise.

That was meant to quote a PP.

FoodCentre · 26/07/2023 19:15

I thought something was off when you grabbed your toy to 'relax'.

  1. Sex toys are more for when your horny than relaxation
  1. It's usually men who disappear off to the loo and their female partner who gets upset. This version doesn't ring true
marshmallowfinder · 26/07/2023 19:17

ThereIbledit · 26/07/2023 19:07

ikt's a colloquialism, @marshmallowfinder

Obviously, but still sounds so stupid.

AdoraBell · 26/07/2023 19:18

Bin him and look for a grown up man.

winterchills · 26/07/2023 19:34

Hmmm 🙄🙄🙄

kittensinthekitchen · 26/07/2023 19:35

marshmallowfinder · 26/07/2023 19:06

Daft expression. You don't put people 'in the bin'. How about call it a day with him or finish with him.

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Maybe you don't put people in the bin. Maybe Ruffpuff does Wink

TeddyBeans · 26/07/2023 19:37

Ruffpuff · 26/07/2023 00:40

IN THE BIN WITH HIM

This! 🚮

BodegaSushi · 26/07/2023 19:47

as the female anatomy permits multiple orgasms

No one talks like this

OhcantthInkofaname · 26/07/2023 20:32

So he thought lecturing you about not doing his laundry was foreplay? I'd rather have a vibrator as well!

CapEBarra · 26/07/2023 20:46

Hey fellow women, I’m off for a bit of light frotting, which I can do, on my clitoris, as I am a woman.

MsNevertherefirst · 26/07/2023 20:53

I was ready to have sex as the female anatomy permits multiple orgasms

Do women talk like this? Especially to other women on an overwhelmingly female site? We all know about female sexuality, mate.

MsNevertherefirst · 26/07/2023 20:54

CapEBarra · 26/07/2023 20:46

Hey fellow women, I’m off for a bit of light frotting, which I can do, on my clitoris, as I am a woman.

You put this so much better than me 😬

octaurpus · 27/07/2023 07:32

'Transactional Laundry.' Sounds like a runner in the Melbourne Cup.

SoundTheSirens · 27/07/2023 09:42

HateMyselfToo · 26/07/2023 16:49

BINGO!

Laundry, playstation, masturbation, orgasms

I read this in the style of the opening credits of Are You Being Served?

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superwoman2326 · 27/07/2023 11:17

guys , I’m not a man. The reason I said the female anatomy thing is bc that’s how I explained it to him to try to make him calm down over this. Ie in case you don’t know, I can have multiple orgasms and don’t need to wait 20 minutes to get it up again so not sure what your issue is as it doesn’t mean you don’t get sex.

not sure why this has been such a topic of controversy here. I guess I find it controlling that he has a say what I can and cannot do with my own body. Very much a female body.

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