Girls Night Out to see Barbie film - friend wants to bring her DH...

[SandyThumb]

Just that really, and it's annoyed me.

Posted to our 'girls' group chat asking if anyone wanted to get together to go see the Barbie movie and friend (who seems more inseparable from her DH than the rest of us...) posted 'yes, 'Bob' and I can do X/Y/Z nights'.

I don't want 'Bob' there. Thought we could have a girls' night out, wear pink and have a laugh together. 'Bob' is friendly with my DH and if 'Bob' goes then my DH will assume he can come too, then it changes the whole dynamic.

FFS. What do I say?

"Sorry! We must have our wires crossed. This is a girls night out. Looking forward to seeing Bob another time."

“I was thinking it’d be fun just us ladies and it wouldn’t be the men’s things” or whatever you call yourselves instead of ladies.
Id feel the same if I was hoping for a girls night, also my DH would be bored stiff by the film

Sorry but Bob isn’t invited for this one, hope you can come but if not let’s arrange something else soon

We had a woman in our friendship group who did this all the time. Often we wouldn’t know in advance, she’d just turn up with him at the restaurant etc - it totally changed the dynamic. We stopped inviting her in the end.

Girls' only cinema trip! Bob can come another time (I.e. Never)

They were probably going to see it together at some point, I don't really see the problem, you can't talk to each other at a cinema anyway.

Lols fuck no as if we're taking the men.

Make out like she's actually joking

Or perhaps I say 'oh, this isn't for the Kens, sorry!'

Are you the friend, Bobs wife?

Agree with PP - I’d make clear this is ladies only. Does her H really want to see it!?

'Bob' is already out with my DH on a 'boys thing' that week too!! 😩

Making a ‘no Kens’ joke is perfect

That sounds perfect.

Haha no! I just don't get the issue as it's a film, I wouldn't see it twice just because a friend wanted it female-only. But op can say it is and they can always say no.

"they're having their boys night out already, this is our girls night out"

Or something along those lines

Maybe I'm wrong...

But do men actually want to see this? You wouldn't get me within a million miles.

Oh this boils my piss
I've stopped inviting certain people who are joined at the hip to their partners
Yeah just say girls only

@SandyThumb there's your chance - you and 'the girls' all message 'the boys' and say "that's great! We can all do that night too, see you there!" And then wait... 😆

Grrr I have a friend who does this and I fucking hate it.

'No Kens for this one, he'll have to stay in the dream house. Would love to see Bob another time but this is strictly a girls night! X'

Don't let any time pass, write back immediately.

Sometimes it's a sign of a controlling relationship when the partner pressures them to either stay home or only go out together.

It's unhealthy and weird IMO.

Seems like a perfect response

This happened with our friend just this week. Ffs. Read the room!

the Ken joke is PERFECT!

No Bob, you aren’t invited
Deal with it

As well as a cute, funny, pink film, it's a masterful commentary on feminism, the patriarchy and relationships.

Your loss.

Hey OP!
Yes, the ‘no kens’ idea is fab. I do not understand why some women cannot do anything without their partner?? I find
it so weird and annoying.