Girls Night Out to see Barbie film - friend wants to bring her DH...

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Just that really, and it's annoyed me.

Posted to our 'girls' group chat asking if anyone wanted to get together to go see the Barbie movie and friend (who seems more inseparable from her DH than the rest of us...) posted 'yes, 'Bob' and I can do X/Y/Z nights'.

I don't want 'Bob' there. Thought we could have a girls' night out, wear pink and have a laugh together. 'Bob' is friendly with my DH and if 'Bob' goes then my DH will assume he can come too, then it changes the whole dynamic.

FFS. What do I say?

If you want a women only outing then tell her so!

Having said that, I saw this with a mixed sex group last week and we all enjoyed it, so it's not necessarily a 'Poor Bob, won't someone save him' situation 🤣

I'm sure I'll survive

hahahaha this made me lol

Breeze it out.

"Nope, no husbands, ladies only for Barbie!".

I wouldn't use the word 'sorry'.

This one is brilliant!

Yeah, use the Ken joke. Don't know why people do this sort of thing

we've stopped inviting a woman from out friendship group for always wanting to bring their other half, so annoying.

Did you specify it was a girls’ night at the outset? Or is that a given in this particular chat and you have another group chat for anyone can go?I think in future if you’re all friends – as Bob is hanging out with your DH, so there’s clearly crossover – always specify!

For now the Ken comment is perfect

I also hate when my friends do this. Am happy to hang out with everyone inc partners sometimes but I also really value the time we spend just as girls.

Have noticed t’s usually the ones in newer relationships who always want to bring their Bob, and that it tends to taper off as the relationship progresses!

People who auto-invite their spouses or partners are annoying in my opinion.

Agree with other posters not to apologise. Husband wasn't invited so husband shouldn't be assuming /friend shouldn't assume on his behalf that he is welcome.

Just say "sorry. Girls only "

So irritating. Silly woman.

My husband cancelled his tennis match to see barbie. He loved it!

I posted on our 'girls' group chat "shall we go to see Barbie?" It's where we organise all our girls get together. If it's 'all of us (i.e. with partners) there's a different chat!

Seemed fairly obvious to me I meant a GNO?

You explain that the entry requirement is an absence of testicles, and leave him to make up his own mind whether to attend 😃

Is her partner controlling and that's why she's not allowed anywhere on her own.

Not exactly, but seem to have an agreement that if something is Fri/Sat/Sun then they don't go out separately?

Might understand if there were young kids at home etc, but we're all empty-nesters!

Deffo use the Ken line!

Just day, "sorry this is just for the girls!" Nothing wrong with saying that.

We went at the weekend and my DH hated it. Like considered leaving halfway through. So it might not be his thing anyway.

It's Barbie's dreamhouse, not Ken and Barbie's 😉

TBF if you posted it into the correct chat then it does seem pretty obvious!

DH enjoyed it, found it quite thought provoking. Would be good if more men went to see it.

Cinema trips can be tricky for group things, I ended up seeing a film 3 times in a week, as went with DM, then DH and then girls’ night out!

But if it is just being proposed as a girls only event then ‘Bob’ isn’t invited

My best friend had to watch the whole of Titanic with her boyfriend pretending it was the first time she'd seen it. Lies, all lies. She'd already seen it with me but he'd been promised too so she had to act surprised (by how shit the script was).

I agree MrsTerryPratchett. It’s a brilliant film.
Me and my teenage DD laughed and had a really good chat about it. Nice bit of bonding.
But I will say it’s not a children’s film