Just found ive been cheated on

[babygirl88]

After 6 years. My partners in the shower, i tapped his phone and saw another womans whatsapp message with an explicit message.

@babygirl88
@LadyVanelope

she doesn't need 'proof'. She knows what she saw. It doesn't matter if he says it didn't happen. She just needs to say it's over-end of.

I’m so sorry hun. It’s a normal reaction when your trust is betrayed on that level. I think you should let him know you saw the messages.
do you live alone? Do you have a friend who you can ask to come over to be with you for the night? Just for some comfort.

Do you think he knows you know? Did you open the messages?

He was angry because he thought he was getting his leg over! Didn’t give a fuck about your emergency with your friend. Bloody good luck to hollie sake will need it
Total arsehole!!!

I think u done the right thing he's an arse but I also think confront him. Show him what u know snd see how he reacts

That is really horrible. Did you leave your own house or did you make him leave?

You say that he will tell you, you shouldn't have snooped. Don't give him the opportunity to say anything at all.

1. Get yourself checked out for STIs and the like. 2) Don't dwell on it, just move on. Life's too short!

We have been together on amd off for 17 years. Im 35. He def doesnt know i know. I am alone. I just want someone here with me even though nothing can make me unsee what i saw. I know every friend and aquaintance. Never heard or seen or name nor face.

I would not say anything and just absolutely ghost him.

Get a sti check, if there is one other there’s likely to be more than one if I’m honest.

I would text him saying "I hope Hollie is worth it, six years of good times down the drain. You can fuck off, now I know the truth" then block him

17 years, how comes you don’t live together then? He could have been cheating with randoms for years if you haven’t lived together.

Get rid

If you haven't managed to get your relationship together in 17 years regardless of him seeing another woman the 17 years of no commitment, no living together, on and off all the time just says it all

Move on while your young enough too

Is there any one you can call? A friend a sister your mum? To be with you now XX

I know you probably want to rip his head off but honestly arguing would likely lead nowhere. You won't feel better, he won't learn his lesson, arguing would achieve nothing. Like others have said: block and move on.

17 years is a long time...whatever you do, if you have a drink tonight make sure it's with friends/family

He wont change sadly. Now you know who he is you will in time move on.

Time is a great healer i promise you

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Unfortunately very common !! It’s totally depressing.

@babygirl88

ring a friend & ask them to come over, I would & have done that for friends, and friends for me. No need to be alone.

17 years, it's a long time, but don't waste the next 45/55 whatever years with him just because you've been together 17 years!

what happened 6 years ago (as per your op)??

there no way I wouldn't want to know how long he's been fucking Hollie etc

and at your age I was stupid enough to take him back, wasted 2 years trying to convince myself I could 'get past it'. That whole time was worse than him cheating.

don't do it to yourself.

you're only 35, don't waste your life on this Cunt.

Seen your update. He’s an idiot. Just end it. I suppose if you want to be “nice” you could meet to tell him but you don’t owe him that.

Sorry this has happened to you by the way. Bastard.

Oh actually get yourself an STD test and anything you’ve left at his place. Or any money he owes you.

I wipl be going tomorrow morning" for a check. What a life..

Has he tried to contact you since he left?

Nothing