Just found ive been cheated on

[babygirl88]

After 6 years. My partners in the shower, i tapped his phone and saw another womans whatsapp message with an explicit message.

Im not good at confrontation and tbh he will just say, 'why dod you look at my phone' if i say anything i look snoopy and he will turn it

Babygirl, why didn’t you confront him about cheating with Hollie?

You’re going to need an STD test.

Did you screen shot the messages on your phone so he cant gas light you?

I cannot breathe properly. I cant believe this

So sorry OP. I get it you don't want to seem snoopy.

I would message him and tell him you're just not feeling it, the sex isn't doing it for you so you're ending the relationship. He won't be expecting that and it will dent his ego.

I didnt even think to, i was so shocked i froze

So so sorry you are going through this

Doesn't matter why you looked at his phone. He's the one in the wrong here not you. Stay strong.

He can’t say you were snooping, the message just popped up you didn’t go looking for it.

You know what you saw. You know who he is now.

Right now you’re in shock, you don’t have to do anything except breathe. Do you have a friend you can call to come over?

You don’t have to confront him if you don’t want to, you don’t have to hear the bullshit. You can just block him if that’s what you want.

Take some time to process but please don’t allow him to manipulate you into staying with him, you deserve so much better and in time you’ll get over this and be so much happier. If you stay with him you’re in for years of hurt. Sending love x

Don't tell him how you found out, just say you know he's been cheating and your relationship is over then block him. You can do STI tests via the post so you don't even need to visit a clinic if you don't want to.

What an absolute twat.

I'm glad you've seen this though. I'm glad you've got the full information, can see exactly what he's like. And I'm also glad to see you don't live together. You can make a clean break.

This will be horrible for a while but you have the rest of your life ahead of you.

What an idiot i am. While he was showering i was wearing sexy lingerie getting ready for him. I just tapped it and saw the messages. I got changed and said i needed to leave. He protested for so long. Why do they do this. Fuck off to hollie?!

I’m so sorry op, it’s horrible! Hope you’re okay!

Has he gone now? Have you asked him to leave your place?

He's the idiot, not you.

He has left. I didnt say a word other than i needed to leave.

He was angry like i had incovenienced HIM.

Text him, tell him you know he's cheating, tell him to never contact you again and then block him. I'm so sorry this happened.

Well done you! He is an idiot and you deserve so much better ❤️

So sorry that this has happened to you OP .

such betrayal. No one deserves this.
I hope you’re ok. You will get through this, he’s not worth being upset over!

I cant believe it. I feel frozen. Im so shocked

@babygirl88

ive been cheated on before, but had my suspicions so it wasn't a shock.

you must feel shell shocked!

You're not going to stay with him are you?

id have to have it out with him though. Bastard!!

I wouldn’t give him the satisfaction of knowing you know - I’d just block him totally.
I did this once and eventually he got hold of me and so just said ‘you’re not a man you are a pathetic mouse’ and it drove him mad - he didn’t know what I knew or how I knew it!

Oh I would totally confront him to embarrass him. How pathetic of a “man” he is