Completely agree with @CrazyArmadilloLady.
He's not subtle about it.
Men as they age, love to be looked after, and are very focused on their comfort.
They make no bones about it and can be quietly and not so quietly demanding about their meals and timings.
Over the past decade some friends of mine have lost their mothers who pandered throughout their marriages to men like this.
Not bad men, but definitely selfish and presumptuous men who presumed their comfort trumped everyone else's.
They have had quite the shock as none of these friends have accepted nor facilitated their fathers presumption that they would step into their late mothers shoes.
They all admitted that they visited home largely to see their mothers and now that they have past, the draw was hugely diminished.
They were all firm with their boundaries and never entertained the grumblings that inevitably came with the shocknof their new reality.
They had careers and their own familys so home help and delivered meals became the norm and they learned to make their own tea and toast 🙄 in their 70's!
Its sad but it is not unusual.
Thankfully, my children so love my independent husband, I could imagine them being wonderful if I went first.