35 with no friends

[LHJ21]

I’m 35, married with three kids.
But I have no friends, my only social life is with my mum, nan and kids (16, 11 and 9). My kids are all boys.
I have one friend who I message every few months, that’s it. But it’s just “hi how are you” and fizzles out as quickly as it starts.
My marriage is very rocky, we hardly do anything together so feel extremely lonely within my marriage. He has friends at work who he is always out with or messaging.
My work is like a revolving door of people and have never made friendship relationships outside of the work place.

Apart from my parents and nan I’m not close with family members, apart from the odd family occasion and Facebook.

I don’t feel like I have anyone to talk to. I never make friends through the school with other parents etc.

I find it difficult to make conversation with others, my only topic is my kids and my mind goes blank otherwise.

Are others in a similar situation?

I did walking it fizzled after a while. My daughter plays 2 sports so thats wends gone here. I meet odd friend for coffee. Cinema on my own. I found by time people committed was easier buy my own ticket lol. Disheartening at times

Hello, I'm having the same issue. Short story, I have moved around a lot in my life. Have stayed in touch with some friends from previous areas but meet ups with them are extremely rare due to the distances involved and everyone is busy.
Also I have a pretty busy life with partner, dog and lots of stuff to get on with. Get home quite late from work. Find it hard to commit to scheduled weekly clubs, as my schedule might change. So I recognise I'm not helping myself, but clubs just aren't really for me I think.

Nevertheless I miss having a true close friend who can be a part of my regular life and I of theirs. Chats, coffees, sharing a takeaway and a drink, or walk the dogs together whilst having a catchup with a female best friend would be lovely. But hard to find that person you click with in this stage of life it seems. Certainly seemed easier before.

After reading this thread I had a look on meetup and I'm afraid there's FA in my area.

Hey OP, I felt like you did. I saw this on facebook and went and gave it a go - it was great fun and it gave me that time for me, rather than as a mum only - https://engage.englandnetball.co.uk/sessionfinder I'm now on a team and none of us had played since school.

I am a 35 year old woman with 3 children, non in which are living with me.i work a full time job.that I most definitely DO NOT enjoy going to and have no friends that I talk to on a regular basis. I'm so lonely it hurts 😢 I also suffer with social anxiety so if u can amazing ,is not helping me In this 😢

I’m similar age and do have friends but this from the school run and NCT as my kids are younger. I can well imagine being in your position if my kids were older as I have moved away from my hometown as well. This probably won’t be useful to you but I have found a wonderful group of friends through my Catholic Church I go to. I did a course there and now we meet for dinner once a week and are all in a WhatsApp group…lovely group of women. Also made separate friends via church with kids similar age. Perhaps you could try it out…but also totally get this isn’t a good option if you are not ok with the whole God thing. Although I bet there are loads who go just for the social aspect 🙈

Try book groups, politics (all parties will be vvvv friendly to you atm!), gym classes, walking, any sport, evening classes at college, other activism, local Facebook groups, conservation, volunteering, arts.

Hobbies good. People very slow to commit. You say text me a few dates. Nothing. Im focused on 2 friends now thats it as people are flakes.