Fuck you

[easyandbreezy]

Decree nisi expected any day now. I've been royally screwed over both financially and emotionally.
And now he wants to be friends!!!
I don't particularly want to speak to him but would love a defiant final gesture.
My friend suggested sending him the Lilly Allen 'Fuck you' video. It's almost perfect but on closer inspection realised it's about racism/ homophobia.
Any other ideas anyone??
Tia

Block and ignore is a bigger fuck you.

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Honestly he isn’t worth a second more of your time. Just block and move on.

Although I agree with that!

Ignoring him will have far more impact than giving him energy.

the best revenge is living well

Don’t do it. It’s embarrassing

silence

it's louder than words

Completely ignoring him is the best thing you could do.

Breathe deeply and let go of all the negative thoughts and emotions, live well, ignore him.

the fact that he’s asking to be friends means he wants to feel better about being a shit. Don’t give him that and somehow he’ll suffer.

small wins

Maybe a full stop before you block and ignore?

Walk away calmly and never look back. Don't give him the satisfaction of even a glance in his direction.

Just to draw a line under it and get full closure 😂

You can pay a donation to an American zoo, I forget which, but you then get to name a cockroach, or a rat or a vegetable after your ex and they will feed it to a snake or some other animal. For extra, they will video it and send it to you to forward on to your ex.

Might be worth a Google!

Whatever you choose to do, don't do it on the day everything is processed. Don't bring down your joy by being a dick to him. I know he deserves it, but you don't! Let it rest, experience your emotions in peace and if a week later you still want to tell him to fuck off then do so. But you living well without him is a much bigger FUCK YOU than you want to give him right now!

Congratulations!

This and just smile if you ever have to see him.

The absolutely best way to get one up on a bastard ex is to live your best life without them and never even think about them. They want to get a reaction out of you, to know that they’re taking up space in your head. It gets right up their noses when they don’t take up any space in your head whatsoever.

Don't embarrass yourself.

When I got divorced and my ex MIL (who I was very fond of) hoped that 'one day you two will be good friends' I simply said to her 'My friends don't treat me like that. I don't like him enough to have him as a friend' and we never have been. I have been calm and civil for the children's sake but seen very, very little of him.

Yeah, he's feeling like he's the bad guy and wants you both to 'be friends' so he can feel good about himself again.

If you ignore him and maintain your dignity he stays in that state and you have the moral high ground. That's a win.

If you respond with a kneejerk 'fuck you' then he's got a response from you but you've been shitty to him, so in his eyes you are now the bad guy, so he can stop being the bad guy (which is what he wants). You've lost.

Channel your inner Michelle Obama - when they go low, you go high. You are awesome, he's a shit, don't let him be anything else by playing his games.

This.

Radio silence. Absolute radio silence. It's the most comprehensive 'fuck you' known.

Biggest fuck you is to live your best life. Cliche I know, but my ex is screwing over the fact he thought he would have the perfect new relationship and how much greener the grass would be - but it's clearly absolutely NOT!

I've since got a promotion, better benefits and a new relationship I can cultivate when he has our DC once a week and he is struggling with his younger affair partner. Karma and all that!

Anything other than totally ignoring him will make him think you have feelings for him.

Even hate is a strong feeling.

Far more insulting to have you feel nothing at all for him.

I'm getting divorced (not my choice) currently and I've found this song much more apt than the Lily Allen one: spotify.link/YkcRBjVn0Ab.

Haven't sent it to STBX though.

I agree with the others - if you have nothing to do with him again it will bother him far more than anything else you could do.