Fuck you

[easyandbreezy]

Decree nisi expected any day now. I've been royally screwed over both financially and emotionally.
And now he wants to be friends!!!
I don't particularly want to speak to him but would love a defiant final gesture.
My friend suggested sending him the Lilly Allen 'Fuck you' video. It's almost perfect but on closer inspection realised it's about racism/ homophobia.
Any other ideas anyone??
Tia

"The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference".

If you really didn't care, you wouldn't care about the final "fuck you".

A someone who's been in your position, the best fuck you was getting on with my life and having zero contact with him.

'He really wants to stay friends'

Really? Whatever for?

Look suitably confused at the notion that you would ever entertain the thought. A shudder gets the point across without words.

Next FM - 'He misses your friendship'.

Oh. How's your cat? Did the vet give him anything to help with his itchy skin?

'He still loves you as a friend, you know'

OK. Did you see guns and roses at Glastonbury on the telly?

Absolutely inconsequential. His feelings are of zero significance to you.

That's the ultimate Fuck You.

https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/46662/dancing-on-the-grave-of-a-son-of-a-bitch

I know living well is the best revenge but this poem is great!

Do it OP .
How about the song
' I will survive by Gloria Gaynor '

I do think the very best thing to do is ignore, however I really wanted to send this to my ex.

Something messy that takes him ages to clear up and he doesn't know was caused by you.

You will just make yourself look immature

''According to the study, people with "darker personality traits," like narcissism and psychopathy, were more likely to remain friends with an ex after the breakup.''
https://beirresistible.com/is-it-okay-if-hes-friends-with-his-ex/

If you have to see him anytime, I suppose if you have children, always look fabulous and smile just a bit vaguely as if you’re remembering something wonderful. Pissed my ex off no end.

Silence speaks volumes so don't waste your energy Save it for looking forward to your new life
Living well is the best revenge... Trust me, I know

I get it more than I could accurately put into words, but anything you say he'll take as a win because in his mind it'll just be "nutter" or "psycho". He won't even for a second listen and think on it. It would feel great to do a final fuck you but it would be completely wasted on him.
The bigger and ultimately final fuck you would be complete silence. That might actually have a chance at making him spin out given time. Not a guarantee, but shows that he's dismissed. But you have to do it and stick to it. It's literally feeding the troll otherwise. Show him that he matters so little that you've sprinted over the finish line without a thought to spare. That's what he's worth - not a bloody thing.

I totally understand your desire to flip him off one last time. I really thought the divorce party was a great idea. You and your friends post lots of pics of the celebration where he'll be sure to see them.

How did he end up with your house? As a pp said, if you haven't yet formalized the financial agreement, spend the money for an attorney to help you get your fair share before the divorce is finalized. That won't make him happy at all.

Wishing you a much happier future!

On your deceee nisi day go out and celebrate with friends. Post photos on your social media, making sure it's clear how happy you are to finally be free.

You don't need to share it with him, someone, eventually, will tell him.

That combined with radio silence from you will be the biggest FU.

So he acts badly, what does you acting badly achieve?, I would move on and concentrate on me not him

I don't get how acting badly makes anyone feel better unless you (general 'you') are bad in the first place

I mean, you’re saying you don’t care but it’s patently obvious that you do care, deeply, about what he thinks about you. There’s nothing wrong with that really, you have a very long history and a great deal of animosity, but by replying, you’ll just let him know you do care. And you say you’re sick of the drama, but by engaging with him, you’re feeding into the drama. Let it go.

I sent this to my ex of many years ago when he wanted to be friends after cheating and stealing money.
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I bet the chorus becomes your anthem.

I'm not your fucking friend

If it's a flying monkey, I'd think I'd respond with 'I'd rather stick forks in my eye than be friends with such a nasty and abusive arsehole' then give a tinkly laugh and change the subject.

Replying with a fuck you will turn you into a crazy ex story that he uses to get sympathy from future shags and friends.

Yes, you could play the long game. Be amicable and hit him when hes least expecting it.

Or just swing between appearing friendly and ignoring him. That will probably have the biggest impact, he'll absolutely hate that. Almost like, you'll be friendly when it suits you, but totally ignore him when you've better things to do (which will be very frequently).

This is wise.

Send a glitter bomb

If you have to respond, a patronising one will be far better than an angry one. Something brief and breezy like, 'Ah, bless you. I'm good thanks. Take care.'

He will be livid that he has reached out and you have politely declined, rather than agreed to be friends or responded with emotion. He won't have won at being the bigger man and he won't have got a raise from you.

Or tell the monkey with wings that you have just met someone, it’s very new but you’re soooo happy.