Fuck you

[easyandbreezy]

Decree nisi expected any day now. I've been royally screwed over both financially and emotionally.
And now he wants to be friends!!!
I don't particularly want to speak to him but would love a defiant final gesture.
My friend suggested sending him the Lilly Allen 'Fuck you' video. It's almost perfect but on closer inspection realised it's about racism/ homophobia.
Any other ideas anyone??
Tia

A meme like this and 'me looking around for your WELL of AUDACITY. Fuck off you sad little man'.

I agree just blocking him will piss him off more than any response you give. However, there's a song called I hope you're miserable until you're dead by Nessa Barrett that would be perfect if you really want to send him something

As tempting as it might be to send him a big FU gesture, there's the chance that in his twisted mind he will interpret it in a different way from what you intended. He might actually derive some kind of satisfaction from provoking such a strong reaction from you.

I agree with what most PPs have said - better to block and ignore, and live a good life without him.

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=5QfM8cdwncA&pp=ygUWRi4gVS5jLiBLIHlvdSBhbmQgeW91cg%3D%3D

listen to but do not post this

A So Happy We Are Divorced Moonpig card with a glitter bomb inside...

I wish I could tell my ex ‘I’d sooner glue a cactus to a space hopper and ride it bare fanny to Australia than ever be in contact with you again’. But have to be the bigger person, especially with kids involved. So it’s the ‘Smile And Wave Boys’ all the way. Hope you’ve got great dental, you gotta grit those teeth hard at moments like this.

Text him "and she lived happily ever after" then block him on everything.

What a great idea!!!!

Ignore him completely, he’s worth nothing. Don’t give him the satisfaction of a response.

Listen to Gayle’s abcdefu on repeat on your own, it’s a great song.

You could throw yourself a divorce party with friends. I’m sure he’ll find out and be pissed, especially if they take pictures. One of the best parties I’ve ever been to was a divorce party for a colleague.

I'd keep to a patronising, 'I don't think so'.
Then block.
An obviously fake smile and then complete disinterest if you ever see him.

The Gayle song is good but can I also listen to Kelly Clarksons cover of Never Been Happier as well, it’s amazing especially the second half where the tone changes.

If you've got no children I'd simply say "I'm good thanks" and block. Everywhere.

What does this mean please? Some lad sent me one on OLD after I said I didn't think a date was on the cards after his shoddy approach to arranging one 🤣
Does it mean like end of?
I'm clearly getting old

'Since you've been gone' is a good one.
Think that's Kelly Clarkson too.

Definitely ignore but make a playlist, including the suggested songs. Add 'love you less' by Veruca Salt. Job done.

The best song I have found lately is Billie Eilish "Therefore I Am"
But don't send him anything. Just give him radio silence and ensure all that he sees is your complete ability to cope and flourish without him.
The best positive feelings I've had have come from painting my own (very extensive) fences building my own BBQ from flat pack. Getting a leadership role at work and expanding my circle of true friends. That and getting chatted up in a bar and getting fitter.
I've upped my spend (yes I'm lucky to be able to do this) on more regular hair cut/highlights and nails. Also getting fit.
I make sure to avoid him except at kids handover, when I make sure I look my best.
I don't want his sorry arse back. But I want him to know I'm doing well. Without having to physically communicate with him.

Ignore and block.

Anything else will make you look unhinged and you will embarrass yourself.

If he’s narcissistic and/or toxic he will love an angry gesture from you, they thrive on destroying you and drawing out your emotions. You say he fucked you over emotionally, and who would do that to someone unless they are warped in themselves? Whatever you do, the intention won’t hit the spot. You’ll just feel hollow.

He wants to be friends so that it looks like he wasn’t cruel to you, to show to other people what a great guy he is “yah, I’m still great friends with my ex wife, I’m v mature about things” is what he’ll be trying to project to others. It also gives him a free pass to continue to draw supply from you by manipulating your emotions under the guise of maintaining a friendship. Ughhh

It means the sentence has ended. As i.nend of.

Thank you @Innocents4321 thought as much. Either that or he was baiting me into replying again.
Made me laugh because the fact he couldn't agree on where he wanted a pint of beer and changed his mind three times, didn't exactly make me want to beg for his full stop to be retracted 😂

Silence. So powerful. And lets you live in peace.

Do not engage with the toe rag ever.

How about this one :)

listen to the song "could have been me" by the struts
watch a million tiktoks about narcissistic exes
drink prosecco
try and remember who you were before all the shit happened (i have zero idea who i was which is odd to say the least)

but really truly don't contnact him. for a thousand reasons that you'll find on tiktok. don't do it.

Thanks everyone. The thing is I have had him blocked for months. I've totally maintained my dignity.
Turns out the grass wasn't greener for him (fancy that)
When I refused to return home he went into punishment mode and has totally done me over.
We were together over 20 years.
I would just like to pop my head above the parapet one last time and let him know I really don't care. And I really don't.
He's gained money, he has my house ...but he's lost so many people ...not just me.
I know he has major regrets , he's one of those people who act in haste and repent at leisure. And he's in shock that it wasn't all swept under the carpet as it normally was.
Really just one last grand triumphant gesture?
Is it such a bad idea?

How do you know he wants to be friends?