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Fuck you

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easyandbreezy · 28/06/2023 18:43

Decree nisi expected any day now. I've been royally screwed over both financially and emotionally.
And now he wants to be friends!!!
I don't particularly want to speak to him but would love a defiant final gesture.
My friend suggested sending him the Lilly Allen 'Fuck you' video. It's almost perfect but on closer inspection realised it's about racism/ homophobia.
Any other ideas anyone??
Tia

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WeegieWan · 28/06/2023 19:09

Yeah, he's feeling like he's the bad guy and wants you both to 'be friends' so he can feel good about himself again.

If you ignore him and maintain your dignity he stays in that state and you have the moral high ground. That's a win.

If you respond with a kneejerk 'fuck you' then he's got a response from you but you've been shitty to him, so in his eyes you are now the bad guy, so he can stop being the bad guy (which is what he wants). You've lost.

Channel your inner Michelle Obama - when they go low, you go high. You are awesome, he's a shit, don't let him be anything else by playing his games.

This. It's what I wanted to say but much better put!

getafringenotbotox · 29/06/2023 13:35

My ex did the same to me and I blanked him completely. He's dead to me.

I am glad I did.

It was also not the reaction he expected from me as I'm usually one for getting my point across but cutting contact, not thinking about him has served me better.

Just move on. Block him or leave him on delivered. I wouldn't even give him the read receipt.

You have nothing to gain by getting riled with him now because what's done is done. I expect he knows how pissed off you are anyway, you would be achieving nothing by carrying on with this where he is concerned.

HarpyValley · 29/06/2023 13:44

If you absolutely have to scratch the itch, OP, how about something like “oh yeah, sure, definitely. We should do lunch. I’ll call you.” And then block him on everything, for ever. You’ll have the satisfaction of picturing his dawning realisation over time that you didn’t mean a word of it and can happily manage without ever seeing his face again, until the day comes when you realise you no longer think of him at all.

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