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Trust my gut and not go on another date, or take a chance?

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Startagain4 · 27/06/2023 06:21

When my relationship ended, now almost 3 years ago, I decided I was never getting into another relationship. As well as being badly hurt, I had been single a long time before this relationship and was always very content and was never desperate to meet someone, so I decided after breakup the single life suits me best.

However, I recently agreed to go on a date with someone, but as the date approached I felt really unsettled and was starting to regret it, but didn't want to cancel at such short notice so I went. I really enjoyed the date, more than I expected. However, we had a kiss at the end, and felt a bit disappointed as he wasn't a great kisser. I know this can be initial nerves.

He text me next day saying how much he enjoyed and couldn't stop thinking about the great kiss!

He is a lovely guy and I would be attracted to him, but I'm back to feeling unsure and thinking I'd prefer to stay single - I'd describe this as my 'gut feeling'. I remember feeling so excited at the start of my relationship... now I can't really muster up any as I know how things can change and the enthusiasm just isn't there.

I don't want to lead him on or mess him about. Should I chance another date or put a stop to things now?

OP posts:
Pinkbonbon · 01/07/2023 18:49

Tiddlypomtiddlypom · 27/06/2023 17:38

Crap kissers are crap kissers. It won’t change.

This.

If you could have tried again on the same date just to check it wasn't just nerves or whatever then fine (usually you find it's not that unfortunately).

But I wouldn't go on a second date.

Gytgyt · 01/07/2023 19:01

Tiddlypomtiddlypom · 27/06/2023 17:38

Crap kissers are crap kissers. It won’t change.

This. We are adults I'm not sure it's something you can learn really if you haven't got the just by now.

Pinkbonbon · 01/07/2023 19:08

Gytgyt · 01/07/2023 19:01

This. We are adults I'm not sure it's something you can learn really if you haven't got the just by now.

Agreed. Especially on a first date when it's not like you have to do anything spectacular.

So if its a first kiss and already they're a lip biter, face sucker or washing machine kisser then it's defo time to go.

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