Page 6 | Stag do anxiety

Jane881 · 2023-06-25T12:50:53+00:00

Partner is off on a stag do in a few weeks to Prague. I don't know why I'm overwhelmed with worry about something happening as in cheating. We've been going out around 15 months and live a bit away from each other. He's never given any reason to doubt him and things are going really well. I genuinely hope he has a great time away and know this is my issue. I feel like I'm punching a bit, he very attractive and funny 🙈 I'd never say anything to him about my worries and have been cooler than cool. But it just gives me the fear as to what could happen and if something did I'd never know. Some posts on here aren't very reassuring about cheating either, it seems to happen alot and opinion regarding it aren't positive 😬 x

BeachBlondey · 27/06/2023 18:00

TheoTheopolis23 · 25/06/2023 19:21

Most women whose husbands have cheated on them think they married a trustworthy man.

Rather sick of repeating that so, again - best of luck op.

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Brightbear do you honestly think, that women are walking down the aisle thinking that they are about to marry an untrustworthy man? I find your comment here quite insulting, as if any women who have been cheated on should have known it was coming, and also you're a bit aloof, like you think that you are the bright spark that would know how to choose a better man, than the rest of us plebs.

My first "D"H as it turns out, was trying to shag anything with a pulse. I had no idea, and like you, thought I had married a trustworthy man. Because untrustworthy men, rarely advertise that fact. They play one role in front of their wives, and then morph into someone else when you're not there.

I know many women who have been cheated on - we ALL thought we had a good'un. We were all wrong. This is why it's such a shock when you do find out - everyone one of us would have said "Not my Nigel".

Brightbear · 27/06/2023 18:51

BeachBlondey · 27/06/2023 18:00

Brightbear do you honestly think, that women are walking down the aisle thinking that they are about to marry an untrustworthy man? I find your comment here quite insulting, as if any women who have been cheated on should have known it was coming, and also you're a bit aloof, like you think that you are the bright spark that would know how to choose a better man, than the rest of us plebs.

My first "D"H as it turns out, was trying to shag anything with a pulse. I had no idea, and like you, thought I had married a trustworthy man. Because untrustworthy men, rarely advertise that fact. They play one role in front of their wives, and then morph into someone else when you're not there.

I know many women who have been cheated on - we ALL thought we had a good'un. We were all wrong. This is why it's such a shock when you do find out - everyone one of us would have said "Not my Nigel".

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I totally trust my husband, sorry that “insults” you, but those are the facts.

I would not have married someone that I wouldn’t allow to go to Prague. Which is what this thread is about.

Brightbear · 27/06/2023 19:57

BeachBlondey · 27/06/2023 18:00

Brightbear do you honestly think, that women are walking down the aisle thinking that they are about to marry an untrustworthy man? I find your comment here quite insulting, as if any women who have been cheated on should have known it was coming, and also you're a bit aloof, like you think that you are the bright spark that would know how to choose a better man, than the rest of us plebs.

My first "D"H as it turns out, was trying to shag anything with a pulse. I had no idea, and like you, thought I had married a trustworthy man. Because untrustworthy men, rarely advertise that fact. They play one role in front of their wives, and then morph into someone else when you're not there.

I know many women who have been cheated on - we ALL thought we had a good'un. We were all wrong. This is why it's such a shock when you do find out - everyone one of us would have said "Not my Nigel".

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What comment of mine do you actually find insulting?

Sittwritt · 27/06/2023 20:10

Oh disaster, sounds like we have a few ‘Not my Nigel’ specimens on here. ‘I would not have married a cheater’

As in, who would?

lol

Brightbear · 27/06/2023 20:28

Sittwritt · 27/06/2023 20:10

Oh disaster, sounds like we have a few ‘Not my Nigel’ specimens on here. ‘I would not have married a cheater’

As in, who would?

lol

It’s easy just don’t let them go to Prague alone, then they won’t cheat?

@Bookworm20 has got it totally sussed!!

it’s her insulting you, not me.

EarthSight · 27/06/2023 20:41

Yes, I'm afraid that Prague is notorious for this. British men are known to visit for cheap stag dos and sex tourism. These bad lads are an ugly blight on the beautiful city, although I'm sure the business owners are glad of their custom. Beer is actually cheaper than soft drinks like Coke. This was 2017 when I last visited and I'm sure nothing has changed in that respect, so you can see why it would draw stag dos.

What this would suggest to me (unless his friends are all arty, cultural types), is that his friends are dubious. It doesn't mean your partner is thinking of or will cheat, but he likely hangs around that type of blokey-bloke, the geezer type that boasts about visiting strip clubs, and the 'birds' that he bangs on the weekends.

His association and tolerance for that kind of man would put me off personally, and men who are alike do tend to socialise together. Although, obviously, all of this depends on who his friends are.

EarthSight · 27/06/2023 20:47

Jesus @Harrypewter It is definitely not the new Blackpool!! What an insult!

Have you been to Prague??

Whatapickle07 · 27/06/2023 21:48

I wouldn't like it either. And I've been with my partner for years and I've no reason not to trust him. But absolutely wouldn't like it.

But I'm pretty certain he wouldn't go because he would feel the same way if it was the other way around. What I don't like is that if they did cheat, you're less likely to find out about it.

But really you can't tell him not to go, you could possibly tell him how you feel about it. But in a rational way?

maclen · 27/06/2023 21:49

I totally get your anxiety, however if someone's going to cheat they will. Doesn't matter where. Eventually if they are going to they will. Try and concentrate on yourself and how you only ever deserve to be with someone that also deserves you.

I think these days so many people are insecure in themselves due to todays society. It's pretty sh*t. Good luck OP

MaxTalk · 27/06/2023 21:53

No one goes to Prague to look at the architecture. Of course it's going to be wild. There's plenty of opportunity there and at least a few of the group will make use of it.

What goes on in Prague stays in Prague etc.

Harrypewter · 27/06/2023 22:53

EarthSight · 27/06/2023 20:47

Jesus @Harrypewter It is definitely not the new Blackpool!! What an insult!

Have you been to Prague??

Insult to whom.
The type of men who used to frequent Blackpool back in the day are identical to those going to Prague.
Stag do- the notion is cringe.

Cathrine821 · 25/01/2024 09:44

Hi would just like to ask Jane 881 if everything went ok when her partner went on the stag