Stag do anxiety

[Jane881]

Partner is off on a stag do in a few weeks to Prague. I don't know why I'm overwhelmed with worry about something happening as in cheating.

We've been going out around 15 months and live a bit away from each other. He's never given any reason to doubt him and things are going really well.

I genuinely hope he has a great time away and know this is my issue.
I feel like I'm punching a bit, he very attractive and funny 🙈 I'd never say anything to him about my worries and have been cooler than cool. But it just gives me the fear as to what could happen and if something did I'd never know. Some posts on here aren't very reassuring about cheating either, it seems to happen alot and opinion regarding it aren't positive 😬 x

Nope I surround myself with decent trustworthy men, I’m sorry you’ve been so harmed.

But Jesus you need help!

where can a man go that he won’t be able to shag someone else? Do you use a lead and harness or a long line for your men?

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Because some of us are married to decent loving men, sorry you’re not. You

Op, I'd be giving a wide berth any man whose stag just had to pick the home of cheap prossies in Europe for his stag do, and whose friends including your bf just had to go along with that.

Least thing I'd be doing is using condoms and not investing heavily in the relationship.

I'm not bothering to debate with the namalt/not my man emoji loving eejits any further.

Wow I didn't know Portugal was so seedy as well.

I don't think most of us have been to "your town", it's not an Asylum or sommat is it? If 😱

I never said my h goes to golf trips or EE stag do's.

Lazy, dumb debating. And so typical of the shit posters on this site.

It's a stag do in Prague, likely to involve strip bars I would have thought. Some men in this situation will stray and others won't. I find it's often not the ones you expect! I'm good friends with a man who went to a stag do in Prague with a group of colleagues who are all married or in serious relationships (I know all these men). My friend told me which men had gone in to back rooms to have a "private moment" with the ladies. Surprisingly, the ones I expected to cheat, the players, the flirts, remained faithful to their wives. The ones I thought would never in a million years cheat, the quieter ones, the nice guys - well they were the ones who went off with the women. It was an eye opener. Maybe reassuring that not ALL the men cheated.
But anyway, the fact is you'll never know for sure what happened so it's how you choose to deal with that uncertainty. You could drive yourself mad, imagining all sorts of things. My DH goes abroad with work a couple of times a month. So many opportunities for him to cheat. Has he? I have no idea. I hope not but I'll never know for sure.

Hear hear @Jane881 a voice of reason has finally spoken to you.

OMG eejits howling rn 😹😹😹😹

It's a stag do in Prague, likely to involve strip bars I would have thought.

The problem with strip bars in EE, is they're not (only).strip bars.

As I said op, I'd think carefully about him.

Best of luck.

I just married a trustworthy man, I guess we’re all different?

Most women whose husbands have cheated on them think they married a trustworthy man.

Rather sick of repeating that so, again - best of luck op.

I would have a conversation about it what your boundaries are. Are you happy for him to go to a strip show? What about a sex show by prostitutes? The difference between those two things are very blurred in the strip clubs/brothels in Prague. What will he do if his friends all go to a brothel?

@TheoTheopolis23 rn

Oh my god…… the strip bars will have 600 stag do men in it, probably 60 strippers etc and they’ll shag all
those men….

Form an orderly queue guys, you’ve got a long wait on….

OMG howling at the insecure women, that can’t chose decent men!

I'm just relieved for some logic and reason here. At least they will learn what it's like to queue.

(And what practising golf really means)

I honestly feel so sorry that you have such massive anxiety issues around your men?

me…. absolutely none.

I’m the happy one though. I’m

I used to live opposite a brothel in Brighton, there would be queues outside on a Friday and Saturday night. Two girls worked from there and they would easily see 50 or more guys. No need to go to Prague for sex tourism

@Brightbear I'm afraid there's been a bit if a misunderstanding here. That was meant for @TheoTheopolis23 I'm agreeing with you 🙂

Anyhow, @Jane881 / @Brightbear

There's absolutely nothing to worry about. Prague is simply a destination like any other major destination such as Paris or Amsterdam, it's just a bit more affordable.

I wouldn't worry about cheating at all. You're a bit worried because your partner is handsome and funny. That just means you like him. Him going on a stag-do just means he's having a bit of fun with his mates.

There are lots of loyal and dedicated partners on MN -- it's just that their partners have nothing to complain about.

Don't listen to fear-mongering. You'll be fine

My apologies, I wax distracted because

I was just trying to get DH back on his harness and administer his bromide, he’d offered to walk to Tesco express and get me some ice cream! So I was distracted and concerned he’d fucking shag someone on the way!

again apologies!

All good, thank you xxx

Well, it makes no difference to me. He's not my partner. I'd be surprised but you never can tell I guess.

Which is the whole point.

Most women think that they are married to decent trustworthy men! Unless there are incidents that they have overlooked - every woman thinks they've married someome who wouldn't cheat on them or they wouldn't have married them.

Some of those women will be right amd some of them, sadly, will be wrong.

This board is full of women who found out their honest, decent, trustworthy, totaly against cheating husband has cheated on them or messaged prostitutes. On that basis, i suppose the location of a stag do is irrelevent but im always a little surprised when some women are so militant about the fact their husband wouldn't. You can trust him and believe he wouldnt but no one can know for sure. Thats just realistic.

I wouldn't be with my partner if I didn't think he was decent and trustworthy. I don't believe for a second he'd ever go out with the intention to cheat but, realistically, no one can say for sure. Never say never and all that 🤷🏻‍♀️

ExH once went on a stag do to Madrid. When he got back he spilled all the beans to me about which Men had done what. I didn't know any of them at the time, but when it came to the wedding (destination so we spent a bit of time with them) I could pick them out with 95% accuracy without them having to be pointed out.

Of course there are rogues that put on a good show of being perfectly trustworthy but there are lots that just aren't that smart 🤷🏻‍♀️