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Is this is a normal way to have sex?

175 replies

SnuggleBuggleBoo · 20/06/2023 20:15

You know on TV how couples burst the front door open, and start stripping each other while passionately kissing all the way to the bedroom - is that actually a thing?! Reassure me please that even in the first throes it's not like that for anyone in real life!

OP posts:
PicnicBunny · 20/06/2023 22:00

SnuggleBuggleBoo · 20/06/2023 20:15

You know on TV how couples burst the front door open, and start stripping each other while passionately kissing all the way to the bedroom - is that actually a thing?! Reassure me please that even in the first throes it's not like that for anyone in real life!

More now than before because kids are gonna come back from park in 15 minutes

RiseYpres · 20/06/2023 22:00

Yes.

And No.

Difference... 16 years.

RiseYpres · 20/06/2023 22:02

To add though... now it is better. The sort of relaxed initially disinterested sex that starts out in a fairly desultory fashion and merges into slow easy sex with someone you know very well and love.

Followed by sleep.

Sugaspunsista · 20/06/2023 22:02

2 years in... see each other every 2-3 weeks. Its just like that 😄

CoconutQueen · 20/06/2023 22:02

I had a random Mumsnet Advert pop up in the middle of this thread with a picture of Boris Johnson which put me off the topic a bit 😂

Mojitosaremyfavourite · 20/06/2023 22:03

Bloomin heck… I’ve not had sex for nearly two weeks. Reading this makes me feel 🙄
Some on here are at it like rabbits but my DH works away a lot so yeah..

Mojitosaremyfavourite · 20/06/2023 22:03

CoconutQueen · 20/06/2023 22:02

I had a random Mumsnet Advert pop up in the middle of this thread with a picture of Boris Johnson which put me off the topic a bit 😂

🤣🤣🤣

tinyshoppingbasket · 20/06/2023 22:03

Occasionally! If we are footloose and child free!

Shoxfordian · 20/06/2023 22:04

We were when we first started dating but I think it’s normal for sex to change in a relationship; been together 7 years now so less hormones and stuff

itsmylife7 · 20/06/2023 22:05

Yes, it's pure lust and it doesn't happen with every partner but when it does....LUST !

mintbiscuit · 20/06/2023 22:05

Pre kids! (And dogs)

Now sex in any other room in the house except our bedroom is but a distant memory…

WhereTheSuburbsMeetUttoxeter · 20/06/2023 22:06

Absolutely. At the beginning of the relationship sex was in bed, but that was after each room! Kitchen, bathroom, front room, on a train, on a hill in the Peak District.

Errolwasahero · 20/06/2023 22:08

Nope. Never. Wouldn’t want it. I love sex, but it has to be slow, relaxed and loving for me. Like a pp said it doesn’t make good telly though!

Justaddalittlespice · 20/06/2023 22:11

Yes I love it like that it's so exciting and such a turn on for me where you just need each other there and then and can't even make it to the bedroom

Cailin66 · 20/06/2023 22:11

pizzaHeart · 20/06/2023 21:23

I’m with @perfectcolourfound - I like to be relaxed and wash hands first when coming from outside.

😱

Yorkshiredolls · 20/06/2023 22:11

If someone would kindly take my two kids for long enough then yes maybe, would love to, but in reality no, because if we started banging around in The hallway like that we’d wake the whole house up and a little face will come out from a door saying Mummy! daddy! Some thunder woke me up banging/ I feel sick/ I had a nightmare!

Outdamnspot23 · 20/06/2023 22:11

Nah, not my style

muppetmayhem · 20/06/2023 22:13

Even when I was like this I would excuse myself to go to the loo beforehand. I always pee before sex it’s like a weird routine.

FuckStonewall · 20/06/2023 22:16

Whadda · 20/06/2023 21:48

They never even stop to make sure the cat isn’t on the bed.

I don't even like my cat being in the vicinity, he tries to make eye contact and just stares in a judgy weird way.

One of us always stops to make sure the cat isn't present. He's jumped up on the bed mid act before.

44PumpLane · 20/06/2023 22:16

At the start of many of my past relationships this was my reality, often not making it to the bedroom. Sex on the stairs is mega uncomfortable so only works in the early throws of passion, up against a wall is pretty sexy but no longer physically possibly (the calories have been unkind) 😂

But after a short while it calms down a bit.......tis but a distant memory after 10 years here though!

EarringsandLipstick · 20/06/2023 22:17

I seduced him on the hall carpet outside the room by knocking his legs from under him and dragging him by his arms to the hall...

Sorry, what? 😳😳😳

That sounds a) physically hard to do and b) incredibly aggressive.

(But to OP's question, yes, absolutely a thing in the early stages of relationships when I used to have them)

FuckStonewall · 20/06/2023 22:18

SwordToFlamethrower · 20/06/2023 21:50

DH and I have been together 10 years next year. Got a 7 month old. Went to spend a few days at his mum's and on the last day (today) baby was playing in the room, his mum was at work. DH confessed he has been crazy horny which was great because I was feeling the same!

I seduced him on the hall carpet outside the room by knocking his legs from under him and dragging him by his arms to the hall... quick, very steamy and no different to when we first met!

Just to let you all know, DH was in no way injured, he loved every second with enthusiastic consent throughout! Being "overpowered" by me is a kink of his. I don't do it often to keep it fresh and exciting!

Is your DH Roman Roy? 😂

My DH is 6 stone heavier than me!

QuietlyWonderful · 20/06/2023 22:20

When we were first married, i was doing the ironing when DH and I were overcome with lust passion. My knickers ended up underneath the ironing board.

Soon after, a knock at the door and one of DHs friends came in. I could see him taking in the scene (we were both decent, but hadn't tidied up). He was clearly wondering how we'd managed to do it on the ironing board.

DreamTheMoors · 20/06/2023 22:21

I had a passionate relationship like that. I was so in love with him.
But he was a druggie and had a job installing cables for the local cable tv company. I had an executive-level position in politics.
I realised that if I stayed with him it’d be a struggle for the rest of my life.
So I left.
I still think about him and that love I abandoned.

HappyBinosaur · 20/06/2023 22:24

We did at the beginning and now 22 years later in our early 40s we are like that again, but only on the rare occasions that all the dc are out!

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