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Is this is a normal way to have sex?

175 replies

SnuggleBuggleBoo · 20/06/2023 20:15

You know on TV how couples burst the front door open, and start stripping each other while passionately kissing all the way to the bedroom - is that actually a thing?! Reassure me please that even in the first throes it's not like that for anyone in real life!

OP posts:
Deargodletitgo · 20/06/2023 21:24

I have had sex like that was a few people, currently my DP, who I fancy the arse off

LadyVF · 20/06/2023 21:24

Very much so with the current fella!

StopStartStop · 20/06/2023 21:25

Oh yes. Sometimes, you only get as far as the stairs.

readbooksdrinktea · 20/06/2023 21:25

It is here. But he's a FWB, and none of us have children.

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SnuggleBuggleBoo · 20/06/2023 21:31

Oh dear, this thread is not helping me feel any better! I need to re-evaluate some stuff!

OP posts:
MysteriesOfTheOrganism · 20/06/2023 21:31
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In the first few years it was absolutely like that - and quite rare for us to reach the bedroom.

Buyyouflowers · 20/06/2023 21:31

Very much like that at the beginning.

motherofkevinnotperry · 20/06/2023 21:32

Yes, but not every relationship. A previous bf was very lustful and we'd not even make it upstairs but then nowhere was safe and the maximum was ten times in a row 😁💪. It was a very passionate relationship but not the healthiest in other ways. Yes with dh in the long lost past but now we've got kids and DH is older it's just not possible 🙄. I miss the lusty, passionate early days and I do wonder if it's like this for others.

Stickybackplasticbear · 20/06/2023 21:33

Not like that for me even early on in relationships. Tbh I always think with sex there's such a variation you just have to do what you're happy with. It's also not a bad approach to life in general 😂

WotNoUserName · 20/06/2023 21:34

I would have said no until my current relationship. We have done this, especially after not seeing each other for a couple of months in the first lockdown. We still do sometimes, but then we don't live together so aren't at the stage of being bored or fed up with each other. I do often want to rip his clothes off. It's definitely the first time I've felt such chemistry in a relationship. Which in a way is sad, but also shows there's hope for any middle aged people out there!

EarthSight · 20/06/2023 21:34

perfectcolourfound · 20/06/2023 20:26

It really annoys me when I see it like this in films! In order to have enjoyable sex I need to be relaxed. And in order to be relaxed what I don't need as random bits of clothing all over the house. On the odd occasion we were like this in the early days, we ended up just laughing as I attempted to tidy up at the same time!

Oh no......you're one of those people who have to fold their clothes neatly before they have sex...

travelingtortoise · 20/06/2023 21:36

It's normal for people that it's normal for - it's not for people that it's not.

Slow, relaxed, curious sex isn't telly-worthy, so it's not shown - just like all the other perfectly normal things that don't get shown on TV.

As long as you're happy and fulfilled, you do you.

Abouttimemum · 20/06/2023 21:38

In the early days yeah defo, also lots of experimenting and taking our time. These days we’re having a casual chat while undressing ourselves and skipping through to the best bits so we can both be asleep before 10. I much prefer this way. All of the pleasure and orgasms without any of the faffing.

AnneLovesGilbert · 20/06/2023 21:39

It’s absolutely a thing. Sorry OP.

FuckNuggets · 20/06/2023 21:39

At the beginning, yes. But not after nearly 30 years no. 😂It's more like, "Kids are out, fancy a shag?"
"Yeah, alright".

MoserRothOrangeandAlmond · 20/06/2023 21:47

It wouldn't make it to the bedroom... also if I done that (we live in a townhouse so 2 flights of stairs) there would definitely be an injury 🤣🤣🤣

IwishIcouldButIcantSoIwont · 20/06/2023 21:48

At the beginning of the relationship, yes - before kids. I've been married for 43 years and that passion was MANY years ago Grin

Whadda · 20/06/2023 21:48

They never even stop to make sure the cat isn’t on the bed.

MoserRothOrangeandAlmond · 20/06/2023 21:49

But after 20 years together, as long as the blinds are shut (and the child isn't there) then we do it wherever. I do prefer my bedroom though

DaaamnYoullDo · 20/06/2023 21:50

Yeah, we've been together a few months, see eachother once a week, it is very much like that. We are hugely sexually compatible and very attracted to one another.

SwordToFlamethrower · 20/06/2023 21:50

DH and I have been together 10 years next year. Got a 7 month old. Went to spend a few days at his mum's and on the last day (today) baby was playing in the room, his mum was at work. DH confessed he has been crazy horny which was great because I was feeling the same!

I seduced him on the hall carpet outside the room by knocking his legs from under him and dragging him by his arms to the hall... quick, very steamy and no different to when we first met!

Just to let you all know, DH was in no way injured, he loved every second with enthusiastic consent throughout! Being "overpowered" by me is a kink of his. I don't do it often to keep it fresh and exciting!

MyMachineAndMe · 20/06/2023 21:52

Only once, because I sent him a photo and text him a few times that day and evening. We've tried it drunk a few times but that has never ended like it does in the films. Now we either go out separately or together but with the kids and can't really do that any more. These days we have to schedule it for when the dc are in bed or at school and it's more like how Michael McIntyre described it: we each take our own clothes off, get down to it as quietly as possible usually and then get dressed again within 10 minutes.

YoSof · 20/06/2023 21:53

SwordToFlamethrower · 20/06/2023 21:50

DH and I have been together 10 years next year. Got a 7 month old. Went to spend a few days at his mum's and on the last day (today) baby was playing in the room, his mum was at work. DH confessed he has been crazy horny which was great because I was feeling the same!

I seduced him on the hall carpet outside the room by knocking his legs from under him and dragging him by his arms to the hall... quick, very steamy and no different to when we first met!

Just to let you all know, DH was in no way injured, he loved every second with enthusiastic consent throughout! Being "overpowered" by me is a kink of his. I don't do it often to keep it fresh and exciting!

How bloody small and light is your DH?!

I’d put my back out if I tried to drag mine!

GoodbyeErinsborough · 20/06/2023 21:54

It happens occasionally here...

SirenSays · 20/06/2023 21:55

Not every day but yes especially in the beginning or when we haven't seen each other in a while.

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