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I think I’m in love with my best friend

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whydoidothistomyself · 17/06/2023 09:06

My best friend is my world. We are so close - closer than I’ve ever been to anyone. He is the most important person in my life. We’re both single and in our 20s. We go on holiday alone together and talk constantly, we hold hands, we laugh hysterically together… the list goes on.

I have always felt like I didn’t really know love until I met him - real, unconditional, selfless love. But nothing has ever happened between us. The other night I just thought - am I being insane? Am I just merrily going along with a friendship with someone who I am meant to be with? I’ve known forever that I love him but it’s not been clear to me exactly what type of love.

We often say we treat each other like partners but we don’t fancy each other which I suppose is true but I wonder if maybe I do fancy him. I don’t know what to do - I could never lose him as a friend and I know I could speak to him because he wouldn’t make me feel bad in any way but I would hate to make things awkward.

All our friends have no idea why we aren’t together. And now I’m also wondering this.

I’m not sure what advice I want from this thread. Either I tell him or I don’t.

OP posts:
Emelene · 04/07/2023 09:40

So happy for you OP!

I’ve got 2 kids and a 7 year marriage with the friend I thought I didn’t fancy! Things change!

NeedToThinkOfOne · 04/07/2023 11:26

Oh what a brilliant update @whydoidothistomyself 💜
so good to have the honest conversation and it could have gone either way, so pleased for you it’s got a happy outcome.

Enjoy this new time together😍

whydoidothistomyself · 04/07/2023 13:27

Thank you so much for all your lovely messages ❤️❤️ It still feels so weird - waking up this morning and remembering was mad, and I think it’s just so crazy to think that this is something that will hopefully last a long time. I always knew that if we ever got together it would be a huge, huge thing. I actually don’t think there is a better man on the planet than him.

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Rarewaxwing · 08/07/2023 19:02

@whydoidothistomyself - what a happy outcome 😊. I hope things continue to go well for you. Do update if you can.

whydoidothistomyself · 09/07/2023 21:21

Rarewaxwing · 08/07/2023 19:02

@whydoidothistomyself - what a happy outcome 😊. I hope things continue to go well for you. Do update if you can.

Thank you! It’s so nice. Like, so nice. We spent the weekend together and I just had the best time - it’s so easy and not at all awkward and I absolutely definitely fancy him a LOT. I think a lot of my doubts were self preservation. I can be quite guarded and I hate the idea of putting myself out there if the other person isn’t going to feel the same, so I don’t think I let myself acknowledge or feel the full depths of it.

I didn’t think this would ever happen and I’m so glad it did!

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CoconutQueen · 09/07/2023 21:37

What an absolutely brilliant thread. I am BEAMING at the outcome!!!!
Congratulations OP Flowers

AnotherEmma · 09/07/2023 21:43

Dare I ask, OP... how's the sex?!

Kona84 · 09/07/2023 22:01

I had a friend like this when I was 16-19 we spent a lot of time together.
we didn’t admit we fancied each other for a long time.
but I knew I fancied him, i felt jealous when he got with other girls and I actually rejected some other guys interests because of him.
one night we were drinking and I went for the kiss I figured I could laugh it off if it went wrong.
we are still together now and about to have our 20th anniversary this year- we have a 2 year old too.

i really feel for you it’s such a tricky line to tread, the risk of messing everything up is scary.
but if you don’t try you might be looking back in 5/10/20 years and regretting not trying

Kona84 · 09/07/2023 22:07

Just read all your posts.
im happy for you and glad you took the leap

whydoidothistomyself · 09/07/2023 22:17

AnotherEmma · 09/07/2023 21:43

Dare I ask, OP... how's the sex?!

It’s very very good 👀

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Annalisea · 09/07/2023 23:10

This has been the most heartwarming amazing thread. Good luck to you both OP!

AnotherEmma · 10/07/2023 07:41

whydoidothistomyself · 09/07/2023 22:17

It’s very very good 👀

Excellent Smile

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