To shave or not to shave?

[scottypippen]

I've NC for this. I have met a new man it's early days and we are getting to know each other all is going well so far. sounds silly but I'm quite anxious about when it comes to the point of taking things further. Will he expect me to be fully shaven down below or is it still acceptable to have a "landing strip" which I prefer I really dont like to be fully shaven or the faff of doing it. I've not been intimate with a man for a long time. Do most women fully remove pubic hair now and do men expect to see women fully shaved?

Keep it how you want it. What if the relationship ends up long term and you’re stuck having to fully shave forever?

It's not about what he prefers its about what you are comfortable with. It's your body.... you do what you want

@scottypippen it's your body of, do what you prefer, the only view that matters is your own.

You said you prefer a landing strip so please do that. You need to do what you like. I’m sure he won’t be arsed!

Do what makes you comfortable.

Happily married for over 3 decades, never shaved, never had any complaints.

Its not about what he prefers, its about what you prefer and are uncomfortable with. Do you think he's sitting wondering whether to invest in a back, crack and sack?

https://www.theguardian.com/sport/blog/2016/aug/15/team-gb-cycling-saddle-sore-medals

The world‑class expert advice from a professor at Cambridge was that waxing and shaving didn’t help our fight against saddle issues,” says Burt.

Pubic hair helps with the transport and evaporation of sweat away from the skin. It also provides some friction protection. Hair removal methods such as shaving, depilatory creams or epilation create damage to the outer layer of the skin known as the epidermis and increase the risk of ingrowing hairs and hair follicle infections.

The women were strongly advised to stop shaving, waxing and depilating

I go for the full bush. Men don't care. I used to shave but now I let it grow. I prefer it, no itching or ingrown hairs.

I agree he's highly unlikely to be thinking about a back,sack&crack himself! I've always been very self conscious even now well into my 40s I feel like a nervous teenager especially as its been a long while since I've been with a man. I have quite a few friends that all say they fully shave and speak about having pubic hair as though it's disgusting. I hate this, but it just seems more the "norm" to be hairless these days.

I don’t remove any, and am in my forties. I did a few times in twenties but really didn’t like how I felt a little demeaned by it, and didn’t like stubble there. I’ve slowly learnt how to love myself and wouldn’t do it again. I have a very fulfilling intimate relationship with DP.

If you want to shave it, do it for you not for him.

Personally I have it all off as I can't stand the feel of a big bush especially a sweaty bush in summer. But I don't do it for anybody else. DH doesn't care if it's there or not..
I just personally feel more confident and comfortable without a hairy vag!

I suspect he'll just be happy that you're taking that next step together. Do what you're comfortable with and don't overthink it!

Also might as well do what you want because you can't predict his thoughts or preferences.

I agree completely that you should have it how you want it.

If he doesn't like it, enough to put him off you, then he wasn't right for you in the first place.

Don't pretend to be something you're not, for a first date or any date - you want them to like who you are, not a false version of you that you've curated for their benefit.

Especially as you can't presume to know what he likes (or if he has any preference) in any case.

Be you. In every way.

No, never shave yourself to please a man, if they don't like it they can sodding well find some other vagina to stick their cock into. Maybe they should make it clear on their dating profiles,,,, ' only interested in women with fully shaved off pubic hair,'.

Men generally don't care either way, their squeamishness/disgust reflex/sensitivity to their partner's bodies (I can't think of a better way to describe this!) is generally much lower than women's. (For example, maybe 1 in 20 men would care if a woman hasn't showered that day before sex). In conclusion - do what you want, he'll be happy either way!

If nature intended women not to have body hair... we'd have none.

I wouldn't be shaving to look like a child for no man...in actual fact I'd be seriously concerned if any man wanted that.

Blimey OP...it wouldn't occur to me to be at all bothered what he preferred 🤷‍♀️ I generally just keep a trimmed 'undercarriage' but the rest is a pretty fulsome bush 🥰 I've had nothing but gratitude 🤣

Very strange how many posts there have been about this topic recently…

1. Your body, your choice

2. I hear on the grapevine that the fashion for fully shaved is starting to wane anyway

OP do whatever feels comfortable for you. Some men love a full bush, some love it neat and trimmed, some love it all off.

But none of that matters, it's your body and one thing's for certain - if you do something to your body that you're not comfortable with, you'll feel far more anxious if/when it comes to taking things further. That'll ruin the intimacy and your enjoyment quicker than any stray pube ever will!

Any man who 'expects' anything can fuck off in my opinion. You do you. I like my hair thank you very much.

Also I'd like to add I have sensitive skin and whenever I've shaved or waxed in the past it has caused things like bruising, itchiness, soreness etc. Why would I put myself through that again?

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You have bodily autonomy, it’s not up to anyone else’s preference. Have a huge bush if you want to 🤷🏻‍♀️

Leave it how you like it, it'll be a good test as to how porn addled his brain is. One squeak of complaint from him and you can wave him bye bye.