He went on a date with someone else

[usersunisdulltoday]

I've been dating a man for a while snd everything had been great (about 8 dates in) chemistry and I really thought we were on the same page snd he liked me, we have been sleeping together and before that happened I had stated I wasn't interested in sleeping with anyone that was still seeing others and he agreed.

Last night I saw him on a date with another woman!! I'm pretty gutted and now see that actually he isn't very interested in me snd is just keeping me around while he looks for the right one.

I'm battling with myself now, if I say something or not.... do I have a right to say anything

So the lie about sorting shit out was what then?

If it was innocent he'd have told you then. And I'm presuming you saw body language that made you think it's a date.

He's been doing the slow fade already. He just needs to save face now he's been caught out.

Urgh

Did you ask why he lied initially?

So he told the mystery woman that you were upset?

You said they looked like they were on a date earlier in the thread, so that seems inconsistent with the very predictable story of you having the wrong end of the stick.

He's just using you for sex. Message to say you saw him on a date so won't be staying in contact.
Then block and delete.

He agreed to exclusive sex because he wanted to sleep with you and either was lying or didn't have any other prospects to sleep with , so any easy promise to make on a temporary basis. He probably thought you're more likely to agree to no condoms on this basis.

He unfortunately doesn't seem to see potential here for you two to have a lovely loving relationship or he wouldn't bother going on more dates (unless he's the Cheater type). I would move on.

This!!
As the saying goes, when someone shows you who they are, believe them. He could've told you he was out for a quick drink with an old friend, as that is what he is claiming happened, but he didn't.

I think it would be naive to believe him. If he was catching up with an old friend, he would not have lied about being at home.

You've only been dating for such a short time - I would cut your losses.

Of course.

A family friend.

Don't let him play you

If you seen him,why not go over and introduce yourself.
His reaction would have said everything.

Get a STI test and look for someone who just wants to.date you.

Try not to make this about you. This is about him being a piece of crap. He will always be one of those men who thinks there might be something better around the corner.Block him.

Doesn't that assume that the OP hasn't been having safe sex? Which given that they've just got together seems a bit of a presumption...

Well he would say that, wouldn't he? You know what you saw. If it looked like flirty body language plus he has been withdrawing anyway then I'd not be too quick to believe him. Not saying it's totally unfeasible that he met a family friend last minute but then why would he bother to give an implausible excuse? He wouldn't. He would give a believable one. Go with your gut here, not what you want to hear.

Always remember that you don't need criminal standards of proof to end a relationship, particularly at such an early stage. Believe in yourself and what you know you have seen. He is bullshitting because you have caught him out.

@usersunisdulltoday if that was the truth then he would have just told you that at the time rather then lying and saying he was at home. There was a very similar thread recently where a woman had been dating a guy, she saw him out with another woman and he had lied about where he was going. She ignored the red flags and gave him a 2nd chance only to be shown she should have left it when she first saw the real him.

If you believe that you’ll believe anything

He’s full of shit. Also, having a drink with a 23 year old ex babysitter? Ohhh, wonder why he wanted to do that 🙄

Why'd he lie then ?

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He was on a date and I think you know it. An old family friend babysitter lol.

So what did he say when you asked him why he lied about where he was?