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Am I being selfish?

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andrew279144 · 05/06/2023 02:46

My partner had stage 4 cancer two years ago - liver and bowel - four months to live. I nursed her through all of it, and thanks to wonderful Southampton General, she is, after colono-rectal surgery and stoma, now free of it. But we had a great sex life up until her surgery. Now, of course that has ended. But I miss it. Am I being unreasonable in wanting some kind of sex life, I'm sure many will label me as just a typical man wanting sex. Tired of masturbation. What should I do??

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drpet49 · 21/07/2023 18:58

betweenfor · 13/06/2023 23:26

No idea why you’re getting such a hard time OP. Most people would think it pretty hard to live in a sexless marriage for two years.

However, having an affair/open relationship is a) horrible and b) a recipe for your marriage to end IMO so please try to get some sort of marriage counselling to sort this out.

If it was a wife posting she hadn’t had sex with her husband for 2 years she would be told to leave him.

VeridicalVagabond · 21/07/2023 19:00

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drpet49 · 21/07/2023 19:02

Naunet · 21/07/2023 13:59

Have got every sex toy under the sun, and they do help, but there is no substitute for normal penetrative sex

Well this attitude explains why so many men seem to think lesbians can’t possibly be happy with their sex lives, and just haven’t met the right man yet.

@Naunet what are you blabbing on about? penetrative sex is far, far better than sex toys

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