Boyfriend throwing past mistakes in my face.

[Lunamolly3]

I would like some advice please, I feel like I am living with the enemy, whenever my boyfriend has had a few drinks he throws the past in my face, in the past we have had bad rows and I have put his stuff out several times.

The other night he was on the phone to someone and that other person started shouting abuse at me about what i've done etc etc. My boyfriend didn't defend me, he agreed with him. I have not been perfect and some of my past actions have been volatile and aggressive - throwing plates etc but I have apologised and am making an effort to change. I cannot get through to my boyfriend, how can he be in a relationship with me when he carries such resentment for me? I think our only option now is to break up. If he thinks I am such a monster - then why is he still with me?

Oh and screenshot your last message of you telling him to leave you alone before blocking. That way you can show the police you clearly told him to leave you alone if he keeps showing up.

You can do this @Lunamolly3 You've seen him for who he is. You've made the hard decision. You've told him what you want. Keep reminding yourself - everything he says is designed to manipulate you. Think of him as an irritating, meaningless noise that you need to blank out.

How was he throwing it in your face if someone else brought it up to him on the phone? You heard someone else criticise your past aggressive and violent actions and are now angry because he did not deny them happening?

Perhaps his friend thinks he should have left you?