Husband messaged prostitute

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So as the subject suggests this is my reality right now. He headed to London last night left his work phone behind. Something just felt funny & I
had a funny feeling checked his work phone and last Tuesday when he was working In Edinburgh he sent a message to a prostitute/escort.
Says nothing happened thereafter as he thought of me and the kids and couldn’t do it but the intention was there alongside 7 other escort numbers.

We are married almost 10 year 3 beautiful children.
he’s came home today packed a bag and left I just can’t bring myself to even sit down and talk with him. I feel disgusting and so disappointed in him.
Our sex life isn’t perfect life is busy with 3 little ones but it happens a few times a month.
i just don’t understand why men behave this way for a potential quick fix.
We have a beautiful home lots to look forward to now I just feel I can’t forgive and move forward as I just don’t feel I could trust him. I don’t want to be one of them ppl that’s paranoid checking phones every week.
If anyone has every dealt with a similar situation would be so grateful to hear people’s opinions.

thanks so much for taken the time to read that
xx

I'd imagine there are a no. of reasons for it.

@TheoTheopolis23 take it from me, he only does it for his own gratification.

Hi , currently in a very similar situation . I just found an email my husband sent a prostitute in Edinburgh back in 2021 , was just after I went through a miscarriage. Currently 9 months pregnant with no idea what to do . Even if he didn't act on it (which I can only take his word on) the intent is just as bad.

God am so sorry it’s so hard and very hurtful. Best you can do is sit down with him and hope he can be truthful. Am still struggling and the trust has gone. It’s heart breaking but surprising how many ladies are in this situation x sending love

For me one of the surprising things is how diffrent looking this escort is from me (checked out her profile) hes always mocked people with her body type , I suppose that was just him covering up what he obviously prefers. Clearly I dont know him .Sending love to you also x

Shut the fk up , none of your business t#@t . Stop getting so triggered over none of your business.

I agree with others on here he's out of order but flip side and I genuinely hope this makes you feel a bit better no cam girl or working girl is interested in your fella outside of what she can gain financially he's probably loved the attention all the woman is seeing is cash to pay her bills she'll have multiple men on the go playing each one if he disappeared tomorrow she wouldn't care or wonder why I know it's easy to judge people but you possibly don't know her circumstance s and why she chooses to sell her soul I guarantee you it won't be a love of sex lol it just goes to show how stoopid some men are 🙄x

Are you actually an idiot?
No one forces men to get married and have relationships, you’re aware of this, yes? And you know men aren’t so brain dead that they don’t realise women are human beings who can have health problems during their life time, hormone changes etc, just like men who get ED for example? So when he signs up for a marriage, he knows this is what he is getting, he signed up to marry a human, not a fucking sex bot. If a man can’t cope with that, he should be responsible and not get married.

Your dick pandering excuses are pathetic. Men have agency over their own lives and choices and are held accountable for them just like women.

Hi love - I’m in the same boat now. Can you use this type of behaviour to reduce contact with kids? I seen my husband a safeguarding concern due to his perverse behaviours. I don’t want this around my children!

Absolutely but that is only part of being a man.

Men do many good things and have many good qualities, but most of them need regular, frequent sex, and if they don't get it they stray.

Some women experience overwhelming sexual desire/ the need to have immediate sex when they are trying to conceive. Most men battle against a similar desire all their lives and not many of them win the battle.

Men do many good things and have many good qualities, but most of them need regular, frequent sex, and if they don't get it they stray.

Most men battle against a similar desire all their lives and not many of them win the battle.

😂 I like to think most/plenty of men manage to stay faithful.

I'm sure you are right, although most and many are two very different things, but whatever the accurate word, it will be a battle for most of them.

Sadly he’s done this before he’s just been good at hiding it. He will apologise and swear to you nothing happened but you know yourself deep down it’s lies.

He is also sleeping with dirty hookers you need to think of the danger that puts you in.

personally that would be it ! It was premeditated and planned out. He’s not in the marriage at all or he wouldn’t have paid for it.

You deserve better, although I believe you’ll stay just make sure you check in on your health if you stay x

Oddly enough op, once you throw him out, what with custody arrangements, rental on a sad little bedsit somewhere, and maintenance payments for the kids, it's probably unlikely that he will ever again have the time or money to pay for prostitutes.