Summer is going to be great for OLDaters and friends

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The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Oh I’ve had one ask if I can prove I’m the age I say I am.
So I say ok photos are all in last few months but I can find my most recent photo from Fb if that helps.

So he says no can you prove your age. I reply flippantly ‘do you want a photo of my passport’ and he replies ‘yes that would be good’

I think he’s joking and reply lol good one and he says ‘I’m serious. If you’re genuine what’s the problem?’

Is it me or is that fucking ridiculous?

Honestly I really do attract them 🤣🤣

Blimey, Nerves, Cadbury and Sam it seems they're all on one today!

Massive red flag if they won't send a pic of them now. And asking to prove your age... Does age matter that much. Uggghhhhhhh

I'm sorry that you had to go through that Cadbury. I'm separated and not divorced yet and my ex and I have a shared rule that we won't go anywhere on the doorstep, but this sounds different

I'm gonna try the bumble speed dating tonight and hope that provides me with a delightful guy that at least makes it to a date!

Yep that would be a big Nope from me as well. All but one of my pictures are from the last month, the oldest from Christmas as that's the newest full body picture of me.
Should have taken a newer one as I've lost weight since then 🙄

Had 7 likes 4 of which I've liked back and now have 2 chats going!

Not totally surprised by that , I found people used to knock a few years of their age, the very last woman I meet on OLD had 52 on her profile, when we met she admitted she was 56 🤷🏼.

someone I know is using 10 year old studio pictures on her dating profile, ( the pictures are great), but don’t really look like her anymore

He said it’s because a woman told him she was 54 then when he met her she was in her 70’s

But wanting a copy of a passport - seriously?

I am exactly who I say I am, my photos are all in last few months and I’m happy to meet up pretty quickly - if that’s not good enough and my integrity being questioned then I’d rather say no thanks

70’s !

What is wrong with these men? They start off so nice and then boom!

You really have my sympathy!

How old is he? I’m on Tinder too but incognito.

I think that is the trouble with OLD. There are a lot of men who aren’t actually single and they are good at lying to avoid getting caught.

Hope you find someone genuine!

How does Bumble Speed dating work and do you have to pay for that? I’ve deleted my profile so can’t do it anyway but didn’t try it (didn’t look into it tbh).

Wow to the guy asking for a passport photo to confirm age. That’s a bit OTT. One guy I met up with said a few women he’d met were using old photos and were clearly older than what they were saying they were but it’s a cheek asking someone to prove their age!

My photos are always recent. Usually in the last month, sometimes the last week. I change them regularly and have become an expert in taking selfies with a fabulous backdrop!

I’m 51 btw. Born in 1972 😀

I forgot to say that MrLocal sent me flowers the other day
It feels so weird
I honestly think I almost got used to men treating me like shit

Im thinking about dtd this weekend but I have no idea how to broach the subject 😂🤦‍♀️

qqq82

wow I’m loving these updates
not knowing how to broach dtd is such a polar change from the ‘can I come on your face’ from the last one 😂

anyway you got this !! Some wine
time on the sofa ….. 😘

He doesn't drink
I really don't know how he will react if I'm as forward as I have been in the past . He might run a mile

But we are approaching the 1 month mark now

Well if that's the type of person you are, don't hide it as that would be being false.
If he hates it then it would show a possible compatibility problem later down the line I guess?

So no wine
but sofa time
has he kissed you ? Have you been alone?

good luck 🤞

I’ve had a very upsetting week with the ex
in his own fucked up i realise he does care for me . But he’s totallly unable to meet my needs and never has been and is utterly avoidant
it is what it is
waahhhhh 💔

Not totally surprised by that , I found people used to knock a few years of their age, the very last woman I meet on OLD had 52 on her profile, when we met she admitted she was 56 🤷🏼. someone I know is using 10 year old studio pictures on her dating profile, ( the pictures are great), but don’t really look like her anymore

Maybe I've just been lucky, but without exception, all the women I've dated (8 so far) have looked at least as good/young, if not better in real life! One who I dated for six weeks or so said she was 45 when she was actually 47... she told me after our first date and I didn't have an issue, but she could have easily passed as early 40s!

@Thisisworsethananticpated aw that sounds tough, hope you are OK, sending a virtual hug.

LuckyLinda3

thanks , I can’t have spent the amount I have on therapy to then re enter into something that just won’t work . Head - wall

18 months and over £1000 later

how’s things with you

Oooh I'm too nice for this whole OLD thing!
So, he has 5 kids, doesn't see the first 2 (20s) & hardly sees the next 3 (8-12) But he pays for them & they are well looked after so that's ok (his words)

Apart from that he seema like a lovely guy. So. Throw him back? Or give him a chance?

Thisisworsethananticpated Hugs to you, I hope things get a bit easier going forwards.

Just catching up with all of the updates. I am aghast. I’ve never thought WTF and OMG so much. Passport for proof of age 🙈, @NervesOfCotton 5 kids and no relationship with them 🚩🚩🚩🚩🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️

Hope the speed dating goes well for those doing it and @qqq82 go for it! 🥳

Yes LittleFloatingGhost It's done. I've never had to tell somebody No on Bumble before (because I barely speak to anybody)

I feel so guilty for some reason!!!

NervesOfCotton

oh that gives me heebie jeebies
I just get a visceral NO when I hear that (not seeing kids ) . But that’s me

Thisisworsethananticpated Yes, he's gone. My immediate reaction was 'Yikes, no!'

Think I'm just being soft today, better stay off for the rest of the day for my own good

@NervesOfCotton I haven’t used Bumble before, seems like a place for mindful solitude from the feedback on here 😅😂

Are you doing okay?