Summer is going to be great for OLDaters and friends

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The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

LittleFloatingGhost Aww lovely date & lovely kiss! Nice happy dating story.

I've just got home I've got about half an hour to transform from Red, sweaty blob into beautiful, bronzed goddess. Wish me luck

NervesOfCotton

good luck ! What’s the planned date ?

Thank you Thisisworsethananyicpated. We are going for a walk through my favourite park, then back past the carpark so we have an 'out' if we aren't feeling it, but if we are then onto eat at the marina.

Nerves are kicking in!

Perfect ! Have fun and hope you make it to the marina

Quick update, having a lovely time, I'm very happy

Ahh lovely 💜

Aww fantastic. Delighted for you.

Lovely :)

@NervesOfCotton

ah yay! 😀

Just got home. 5 hour first date. Floating on air a little...
He's so nice. Seems like a genuinely nice guy (but obviously I will keep my guard up) I sooo wanted a snog at the end but wasn't brave enough to do it myself, he leaned in & gave me the most loveliest hug though that I didn't want to ever end. He smelled like soap & loveliness

Date 2 arranged for Monday.

Thank you everybody for your support today. Seems a bit of a whirlwind only chatting yesterday & meeting today.

Slight issue on my end, assuming he's telling the truth, he's very, VERY well off & I'm very not! All of his stories involved money but not in a show-offy way just in a 'Everybody who I'm around has money' kind of way. I didn't feel like he looked down on me at all though.

NervesOfCotton

ah i love a nice date story
and he smelled nice 🥰
the money doesn’t have to be an issue
If it can be discussed sensibly

Lovely to hear a good date story @NervesOfCotton 😊

Anyone else noticed the influx of catfish currently doing the rounds? My number 1 catfish is still active - he must be on 20th different name and age now - but noticed a couple of others recently on hinge - mainly because one tried to match me and I thought "nope, no way are you interested in me" so didn't match. I think he deleted as disappeared bit has now appeared twice more, again with different names again 🤦‍♀️

Thank you Thisisworsethananticpated
Yes I was impressed that he managed to smell of soap seeing as it was still about 50 degrees & he hadn't managed to get home & shower before the date!

We were joking about money by the end of the date, he said he would like to buy a motorhome but has no room to keep it, I said why doesn't he just get rid of some of his planes & boats & things? He said 'Yes, after all, one only really needs 3 jumbo jets don't they, I could get rid of the forth' & things like that.

He drove me home (to the end of the rd & I made him drive off so he doesn't see my house) but whilst we were sat there chatting he could clearly see these small, terraced houses, nothing like what he's used to. We definitely come from 'Different sides of the tracks'.

But after that, he messaged me when he got home saying 'I had a wonderful evening, I can't think of anybody who I'd have rather spent it with. You are lovely'.

(Hopefully it's not all bullshit)

Thank you Slothmomma

I've not noticed it being any worse than usual. Some on mine have slightly different area/age but same photos. Join & leave on the same day etc. I don't even bother reporting them anymore tbh. They leave & come back so often that the site admin can't keep up.

@NervesOfCotton delighted for you, lovely update. You will be looking forward to Monday. Enjoy your weekend.

@NervesOfCotton so sweet 💕

So, an update from me is that Me Music and I decided to have a third date last night. He came over, it was fun, but now I am not sure I am feeling him - and he is talking about a next date.

Not sure if this is just because it’s all so new after coming out of a very long relationship and maybe I am not fully ready. He has messaged today, but I have decided not to msg him and have some time to think about what I want.

@LittleFloatingGhost it's not easy is it? Are you attracted to him? I remember over thinking everything in the beginning and looking back I don't think I was fully ready but take things at your own pace. I don't think I'd completely ignore him either as I wouldn't appreciate that myself but you know best how you feel.

Aww LittleFloatingGhost I hope you can organize your thoughts a little. It's so difficult isn't it, when it seems right but it's just not quite right also!

@LuckyLinda3 no, it isn’t easy. I am definitely attracted to him, although I was really unsure about his profile and I am glad he connected with me first. He seems genuine and two years post divorce, just looking to see what happens, which was ideal for me.

I had messaged this morning and he replied, but it was after that I felt I don’t want to message him again first. If he messages me, I’ll decide what next. @NervesOfCotton Hopefully this just gives me time to figure stuff out.

It was very spontaneous as we had spent lunch together and the chemistry was lovely.

I also think he has a date tonight, as I had asked him if he was free to do something tomorrow (meaning today as this was at lunch yesterday) and he had a slight hesitation before saying he was out with a friend. So we will see (this may also be impacting how I am feeling about things).

I have a first date with Mr T on Monday. He currently feels like an old friend given how long we have been messaging for.

So folks I'm confused. He rang and we spoke for ages. We usually always spend sat night/sun morning together but as he has a party to attend he can't come to me. He suggested calling early but going again or me coming down. I don't mind about going down but because my issue has been about him making time I'm reluctant to go to him the time.....am I just being awkward.

LittleFloatingGhost Aah, I can see why you are having some doubts then. I hope today you've managed to feel a bit clearer about things?

LuckyLinda I don't know the backstory but my gut feeling from what you've said is that you are wanting him to make more of an effort? & You going to him isn't really that is it.

@NervesOfCotton I have been ruminating all day! It was too soon for me to get intimate with Mr Music, or anyone. I think I wanted to have a new experienced someone new after my ex. It feels like I have properly closed the door now I have done this, does that make sense? My ex wasn’t the last person I kissed or had sex with and I think I needed that, weirdly.

I am going to go ahead with the date on Monday with Mr T, just because we had to reschedule this one (and he intrigues me).

After Monday I’ll be pulling back and not dipping my toe in again until I feel properly ready.

@LuckyLinda3 It reads a little like he can’t give you the time you need, and you may be better finding someone who can. Hopefully I have understood the background to this.

Oh my goodness LittleFloatingGhost. You've just made me realise that my ex was the last person that I kissed! 6 years ago... Ugh, somehow hadn't realised that until I read your post

Might go out & snog a random guy

What you wrote made perfect sense to me, by the way. I'm glad you feel a bit better about things.

@NervesOfCotton definitely snog, maybe not do anything else!! Lol. Do you think you’ll have a lovely kiss tomorrow?