Summer is going to be great for OLDaters and friends

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The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

SamW98

id say ‘mate the very fact you have this meme saved on your phone… .. means surely you can see this nude pics strategy isn’t working - no ?’

I mean how often has he sent that bitter image I wonder ?

I think these unrequested nudes should go on a digital wall of shame.
Let's all have a giggle.

Oh believe me the naked photo has been sent to the girls chat group 🤣🤣

I looked, rolled my eyes and thought ‘ok then twat’

Looking back anyone who has to keep telling me what a great bloke he is is a red flag. And he also mentioned he dated a lot - not going well then is it??

It’s probably a very good thing theses kids show their true colours very quickly - saved wasting time

You could create an only fans group.
Random nudes.

unrequested nudes

my friend shared some she received
problem is they were quite magnificent photos so she went to meet him 😂

said he was quite boring

@SamW98 I have no words. Some people are vile, he needs putting in the sea and just leaving there.@Harrypewter I'm glad it turned out OK in the end!Mr Absent has started texting a bit more and keeps coming over for sex. We do have good chats before and after but it is starting to get a bit monotonous, but he still seems like a great guy and no red flags so I'm going to keep seeing him and seeing how/if things progress. I had another iron on tinder but I'm just not feeling it and too busy to meet unless I'm feeling really invested so I let that one die down.

Goodness! Surely by now all app creators should make people (or more like males) who sign up go through some brief etiquette/terms and conditions thing, where it should say in capital letters - No unrequested nudes unless your intention is to make someone a little bit nauseous or to send your image freewheeling round the world wide web! tick the box that you understand and agree.

I believe, sending unsolicited nudes is now illegal and you can report it to the police. If you want to take it that far.

@SamW98 take joy from the fact that whilst you had forgotten all about him easily, you were obviously playing on his mind days after so he was either stewing over the home truths about the nude or annoyed that he'd messed things up with you - either way bullet dodged

@Harrypewter glad you and Ms iceberg are back on ao quickly

I landed yet another who eventually admitted he was only close as working on a site nearby but clearly travelling home at weekends (to the wife no doubt) so I made it clear not comfortable with situation and he unmatched so that's my 3rd "working in another town" cheat dodged.

I have a date tonight. Haven't chatted much so not sure what to expect but will update.

Oh I had one who lived 3 hours away but was down here regularly for work.
So we arranged to meet in a nice gastric pub not far from where he was staying but last minute he decided it would be easier for he to come to his hotel then decide where to go from there - hmmm.

They honestly think we’re stupid and/or desperate

I'm meant to have a date tonight but I'm meant to decide where to go and my brain is just not cooperating
He's going to think I'm messing him about
But I just can't think

Sooo I'm thinking of letting Mr Sparky go. Due to meet halfway on Thursday evening but generally we're almost 1.5 hours apart. I truly cba with a LDR. When my life wasn't as busy maybe but the thought of spending each weekend there or him here and never midweek doesn't appeal. Real shame as he's funny and interesting.

Seeing Mr Florida on Saturday but he's so dull in texts 😳 we shall see...!

Oh wow, Ms. Iceberg and I are 2 hrs plus apart. Plus we have conflicting childcare schedules.
That will resolve with time. Plus the long distance slows things down naturally.
If we were close I think we'd end up unemployed. There's certainly a lot of erm, passion.

I was 30 mins from MrNoEffort and I thought that could be a problem
Could have overcome it if he'd given me any indication he was bothered about me of course
The date I've got tonight it pretty far currently but has bought a house in the next village

My children are grown up and I'm about to have a completely empty nest, but I've spent the last couple of years building a life, getting myself into a good place and I wonder if I'm too independent 🤔 plus I'd like someone I can see midweek too.

My exH and I met long distance -4hrs apart. It worked as neither of us had anything else in our lives, or weekend commitments so it was great to spend every weekend together. We lasted 6 months LD before moving in together. Due to a personal family situation I'm not in a position to move for around 2-3 years and he never would due to his business.

I realise I'm overthinking 🤣 but it's a consideration. I don't want to waste anyone's time.

My exh lived on the other side of the world when we met
So we moved in together too quickly really
I ignored so many red flags with him though

@SamW98 one of the ones that tried it with me forgot that WhatsApp links to fb so he came up on there with his profile pic of him and his partner - I checked her account and it was clear they were very much together 😡

Date last night was nice guy, very interesting but I just wasn't feeling it. Not chatting with anyone else at moment

Date went pretty well last night I thought but I'm not sure I could ever find him attractive
He sort of looks like my exh who I never really fancied either if I'm brutally honest 😂

I’ve got my first coffee date planned from
Bumble this Friday!
I’m not sure I fancy him from his photos but he seems nice and has similar interests so we’ll see.
I ended a FWB who I fancied the pants off (I’m not cut out for fwb) and I’m not sure anyone else will come close in terms of attraction but we’ll see.

Date from last night is texting A LOT

qqq82

Awee he likes you
does have have enough positive traits to sustain a second date ?

Passmethpens

good luck
this thread appears to be riddled with sexy but stressful FWB 🤦‍♀️

@Thisisworsethananticpated maybe
I just think the fact he reminds me of my ex will give me the ick
Also he's sober , 20 years
So it's one extreme to another , from my alcoholic ex to a non drinker
And I admit I like a social drink now and then so not sure how that would work out

qqq82

i dont mind non drinkers as i drink too much !

i suppose I’m curious if he s a nice guy , seems kind , has nice values etc

but you really don’t have to have a second date for that alone !