Men not being attracted to obese women

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I've just watched a video by an' expert' emphatically saying that men do not as a rule find obese women attractive unless they have a specific fetish for obese women.

I don't know what to think for I would be considered obese on scales but certainly don't feel I look obese and consider myself relatively attractive and some men have expressed attraction towards me
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I'm 5'7' and over thirteen and a half stone . Size 14-16 .I am 49.
This has really unsettled me for some reason. How insulting . But is it true ?

People carry weight differently. I have two friends, same weight and height, both overweight. Friend A has an hourglass figure, very big boob's, small waist, big hips, beautiful face. Men LOVE her. Friend B carries her weight completely differently and although she's the same weight as friend A she just looks more fat and unhealthy (I feel awful saying this). I've known friend B for over 20 years and never known her have a boyfriend or any interest from men. I find it really sad as she's incredibly kind, caring and just a lovely person. She very much wants to settle down and have a family.

No it really isn't. That is the definition. We are just so used to seeing obese and morbidly obese people it has become normalised.

Stop watching stupid incels online. Find sonething different to do. Why on earth do you think he speaks for all men anyway? Honestly - don't be a victim for this sort of nonsense. Keep away from it. I mean its not as if you only see slim couples out there is it?

Do you need to be validated by men?
F*ck that quite frankly.

I didn’t know Richard Dawkins hangs out on mumsnet.

Many men will not find obese women attractive.

Many men will not find women who are too slim/ underweight attractive.

This can also be said for most women too.

The idea that most men like size zero women is absolute BS and came from standards in the fashion industry in the western world which is dominated by gay men and women.

Most men like women who are curvy but not fat but wouldn’t be against going with someone slimmer or bigger because they don’t find them unattractive.

Not every women is going to have big boobs, hips and bum with a small waist and not too tall or short etc.

However, there are going to be many men and women who don’t want to be with someone morbidly obese or super skinny because for most people including myself it’s just not attractive because being unhealthy is never attractive.

@TheGander 👍🤣

Men shag piles of leaves? 😧

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Whatsyour

Is he stinking loaded?

He doesn't. Blonde hair = stronger bones? This is just nonsense.

How do these guys account for the existence of gay people?

On average men tend to go for pretty, young, slimer women not older, fatter and ugly. Oh well that's life. Women can also decide who to fancy and who not. Some dating sites though are full of desperate men who will take anything going 🙄😂

The point isn't that anyone is disputing what obese medically means, the point is if you're an online twat who says men are categorically never attracted to obese women, unless you explain in explicit detail what you mean, this could apply to so many people and different people can interpret it in multiple different ways. Although both are not good, there is a difference between being 2 stone overweight with a BMI of 30 and 10 stone overweight with a BMI of 55.

Most people, even if they don't personally agree, can at least concede that someone can be attracted to an hourglass figure size 14 woman and not be attracted to an apple shaped woman who wears a size 22. When you make stupid sweeping statements that "all obese women are unattractive", the above is just one of the reasons it's a fuck witted thing to say.

Both women could be obese. That's the point people are making when they're referring to what you even define as obese.

You're not obese. I'm 5ft 6" and 13 stone. Size 14. My clothes fit and look quite nice. I'll never be skinny again but get a fair bit of interest from men, even at my advanced age. Maybe you just need a bit more confidence.

But people are disputing it! I was responding to a post that said "it depends on the definition of obese" and dismissed the BMI definition - which is literally how you define it! Even here you're trying to muddy it by making it about shape and sexual attraction, and it isn't!

Obviously some online incel twat saying that no man is attracted to obese women is talking demonstrable shite. But obesity itself has a clear and real definition: BMI 30 or above.

It just doesn't mean "ugly and boner-destroying".

I’m wondering about the multiple partners some obese women here claim to have had. I am not saying the numbers aren’t true but I’m curious about the “quality” of these men.
Maybe these men were desperados? Any port in a storm kinda men? 😕

FranksOcean · Today 13:23
I’m a size 18/20/22 therefore consider obese, morbidly obese even. I have had attractive partners and have one currently. They obviously have found me attractive, must be the boobs and bum! and how I carry myself”

Your confidence, too probably.

Why would they be?

is that in absolute or relative terms?

Attractiveness isn't based on weight alone but it's no surprise. I'm obese and never had much male interest even when I was a young woman. Depends how obese and how you carry the weight. I am not v curvy though, just square and solid looking. I do have a nice face, pleasant but round and I have a double chin.

I looked much better when I was a size 14-16 and it was easier to meet men. I'm sure I would have had more luck again if I'd got down to a size 10. Seems to make sense. Sure there are some men and who are still v attractive when they are very obese, but I don't think it's the norm. Being slim goes a long way.

No they're not disputing what obese is define as, you're getting muddled up because they're using the word define.

Obviously BMI has a specific definition. The point is, again, that in the specific context of this conversation, as in when a random man is calling all obese women definitively unattractive, people are just point out how unfair and unobjective the statement is. People who are obese with a BMI of 30, as already covered on the thread, look radically different from people with a BMI of 70.

That's the only point they're making. That it's unfair to make such a sweeping statement, because not only is it shitty anyway, but also you're talking about such a wide range of people it's also completely meaningless.

As said, lots of people, if you say the word obese to them, they know it means really fat. But they're much more likely to be imagining a really really big person rather than someone who is a size 16. That's the only point they're making. They're not trying to "muddy waters". This thread isn't a discussion about what obese means objectively, they're discussing a subjective statement, made by a twat.

@whatsyourpoison13 The only man I've ever wildly, crazily attracted to (my college boyfriend) was 5"4. (I mean, I assume he still is 5"4 Haven't seen him in years).

Admittedly he was dynamite in bed

I’ll just add. I’m a size 12, slim, big perky boobs, toned bum.. ok looking I think, and I don’t actually get much make attention! Hardly ever.

Why be obtuse. You know why. The whole point of this thread, with many people explaining their experience, as to why this would be the case.