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Cheated on at work

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Getting2me · 14/03/2023 17:49

I've had a feeling lately that something isnt quite right about my relationship. Dp is at work. He works in furniture, the business also does wallpapers. he also delivers. It's a small business. We were just speaking on the phone. After a short while, there was nothing to talk about so he started speaking about a woman he met before me who he was seeing. It had nothing to do with anything we were talking about. He was delivering a couch to her and she led him to the bedroom and tried to have sex with him. He said he didnt do anything. I asked him how he ended up in her bedroom if he was delivering a couch but he couldnt tell me. It is glaringly obvious now that my feeling was right. I've told him I'm done and ended the call so he whatsapped me with this.

Cheated on at work
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ExtraOnions · 14/03/2023 17:53

Apropos of nothing … and because you ran out of things to talk about - he tells you someone tried to shag him. This may (or more likely) may not have happened. Either way, it’s a trust issue .. you either trust him, or you don’t, if you don’t you should end it.

Cool story though

Cheeseandhoney · 14/03/2023 17:56

This makes no sense, he was seeing her before you she led him to the bedroom for sex and you’ve taken issue, as what you think he was a virgin when you met

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Getting2me · 14/03/2023 17:57

Sorry if I was unclear, they were previously seeing each other but this incident happened today

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Cheeseandhoney · 14/03/2023 18:01

Ah ok.

either way it’s like some weird 80s porn movie. Delivery driver fronts up and horny housewife shags him

I doubt it happened op. Lol.

ExtraOnions · 14/03/2023 18:05

Confessions of a Sofa Delivery Boy …

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Getting2me · 14/03/2023 18:08

I am not asking to be marked on my creative writing. If it was creative writing then id put in more effort and have you pay to read it but this happened in india where people do things differently

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amiold · 14/03/2023 18:10

He lives in India and you live in the uk? Or you're both Indian but communicate in English?

Newwardrobe · 14/03/2023 18:10

Hmmm

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Getting2me · 14/03/2023 18:11

amiold · 14/03/2023 18:10

He lives in India and you live in the uk? Or you're both Indian but communicate in English?

I dont speak indian and his English isnt the best but if he didnt speak to me in English we wouldnt be able to talk

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piedbeauty · 14/03/2023 18:12

I'd dump him for being illiterate.

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Getting2me · 14/03/2023 18:12

Honestly I'm starting to get angry that people think they know everything

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amiold · 14/03/2023 18:14

But you are in different countries ?

Deathbyfluffy · 14/03/2023 18:14

Getting2me · 14/03/2023 18:12

Honestly I'm starting to get angry that people think they know everything

Then don’t start a thread asking for opinions, frankly

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Getting2me · 14/03/2023 18:15

I'm being questioned to death here. This isnt a police station or a crime scene ffs

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PictureConsequences · 14/03/2023 18:15

There's no such language as Indian.

Name99 · 14/03/2023 18:16

So the couch sex incident was when you were together, not when they were together?

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Getting2me · 14/03/2023 18:16

Bye

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Getting2me · 14/03/2023 18:17

PictureConsequences · 14/03/2023 18:15

There's no such language as Indian.

As in, all indian languages collectively, I dont speak any.

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Newwardrobe · 14/03/2023 18:18

Are you both in the uk ?

LovePoppy · 14/03/2023 18:18

As an aside

some people have couches in their bedrooms

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Getting2me · 14/03/2023 18:20

I wasnt asking anyone for opinions. I know he has cheated. But some people just want to be big headed and interrogate someone yet act like they know everything

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Donnashair · 14/03/2023 18:23

Getting2me · 14/03/2023 18:08

I am not asking to be marked on my creative writing. If it was creative writing then id put in more effort and have you pay to read it but this happened in india where people do things differently

Ok, you do things differently in India.

How do these different things impact what’s happened? Maybe we will understand better.

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Getting2me · 14/03/2023 18:27

I wont post about this again. People can be so horrible

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Name99 · 14/03/2023 18:27

If you know he's cheated, end the relationship, easy if he's in India, then get a STD test

Choconut · 14/03/2023 18:43

'Not for fuck'
I think it's time to move on whatever the case don't you OP? I'd stick with someone who you speak the same language as and who lives in the same country as, it just makes life 1000 times more complicated otherwise, and how can you ever have a deep conversation when you don't speak the same language?