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Red heart emoji on a teams work chat...

168 replies

Ineedaslap · 09/03/2023 16:51

So, DH has been messaging a lass in his IT dept about some equipment he needs.

She has red hearted all his messages, and in his last message where he thanks her he has put a red heart emoji in the message.

I've seen the messages and they are innocuous, he says he has never spoken to her before but I am a bit aghast and annoyed at the red hearts.

He says I am being ridiculous and need to sort my jealousy issues out and that it means nothing.

But as someone who wouldn't use a red heart in a message to anyone other than DH then I am not so sure.

So people of Mumsnet, how would you have reacted to this?

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Eeiliethya · 09/03/2023 18:33

I do it so I don't have to put a reply and can get out of the convo quicker. Wouldn't read into this.

sn0wbun · 09/03/2023 18:35

@ReadersD1gest No, in Teams messages...which is what this thread is about

EveryoneButSam · 09/03/2023 18:36

Used all the time at my work, interchangeably with thumbs up. I've had hearts from multiple men of all ages who are absolutely not into me!

Iheartmysmart · 09/03/2023 18:38

Blimey we use the heart emoji loads on teams, in fact I used it this afternoon when replying to a message from the lovely IT guy who spent the best part of two hours trying to fix a problem with my laptop. I have no romantic interest in him at all!

vitahelp · 09/03/2023 18:39

I wouldn’t look too far into this and I wouldn’t be too surprised if a male work colleague did this. I probably wouldn’t do it myself since I know what men can be like and wouldn’t want to encourage them, but if I accidentally sent a red heart to a message to a male colleague I wouldn’t panic too much.

CalamityClam · 09/03/2023 18:41

@Ineedaslap you have the passcode for his WORK MOBILE?!

GoodChat · 09/03/2023 18:46

CalamityClam · 09/03/2023 18:41

@Ineedaslap you have the passcode for his WORK MOBILE?!

Mine and DP's work passcodes are the same as our personal phones and we both know each others; not that we'd ever use them unless we needed to like when I order maccies on the app and insist he collects

philautia · 09/03/2023 18:58

Totally normal.

Middletoleft · 09/03/2023 19:00

I'd send love heart emojis if my IT fixed the half of what I need them to (and haven't yet) She's either ridiculously pleased or young. Younger people don't always get how to be "corporate" or are just very casual.

I wouldn't worry about it.

ChilliBandit · 09/03/2023 19:08

Middletoleft · 09/03/2023 19:00

I'd send love heart emojis if my IT fixed the half of what I need them to (and haven't yet) She's either ridiculously pleased or young. Younger people don't always get how to be "corporate" or are just very casual.

I wouldn't worry about it.

Maybe the definition of corporate has just evolved?

DutchCowgirl · 09/03/2023 19:14

About 5 years ago i worked together with a married male colleague. He told me he had difficulties with all the red hearts everyone sent in the team because he was afraid his wife would not approve of it. So sweet!

housemaus · 09/03/2023 19:15

ChairOfInvisibleStudies · 09/03/2023 16:57

Totally normal expression of gratitude where I with - men and women, all ages. Doesn't mean anything beyond appreciation.

Same!

Allmyarseandpeggymartin · 09/03/2023 19:25

”Corporate” has definitely moved on. Teams are disparate now spread over the country/world, WFH/Hybrid is the norm, using instant messages to get shit done is the norm, everything is done on zoom/teams via collaboration tools.
Emojis are just a light hearted way to show appreciation/build relationships, nothing unprofessional about them. Our chief information officer likes to use dancing penguins on his messages 🤷‍♀️

Dashel · 09/03/2023 19:27

If the hearts on Teams is for romantic love then my Team must be at it like rabbits!

I don’t tend to use the heart’s myself, but they are widely used by a lot of people in group chat as well as individual chat.

No idea what is in DHs chats though and it wouldn’t bother me at all if he had hearted other peoples messages.

Dotcheck · 09/03/2023 19:28

sorcerersapprentice · 09/03/2023 16:57

Ach, the younger ones all do hearts rather than thumbs up. It's the standard on Instagram and TikTok. It means nothing. Don't read anything into it

Came on to say this

Notmynamethistime · 09/03/2023 19:28

I must admit I get red hearts regularly from my young male team members plus from other departments. (I’m nearly 50). The first few times it really puzzled me as I work in a very ‘aware’ place. And it’s usually in response to a boring work conversation as well. I’m not returning them though, feels a bit creepy!

lemoncurdcrumpets · 09/03/2023 19:30

Alstothemarvshien · 09/03/2023 17:03

I definitely wouldn't like it. The red heart is reserved for romantic love. I thought everyone knew that?! Sending hearts to family and friends - always the other colours but not red.

I’ve literally never heard this.

Everyone at my work uses the red heart. It’s just like a ‘like’.

BarbedButterfly · 09/03/2023 19:38

Totally normal for teams at my workplace. We hardly use email. Everyone red hearts everyone

BigBadBoom · 09/03/2023 19:47

Mine is another workplace where we use Teams, red hearts are standard, as is use of all other emojis, and a lot of GIFs too. We range in ages from 20s to 60s, I'm in my 40s. It's just a bit of camaraderie really.

NoWayRose · 09/03/2023 19:49

Red hearts on teams are just spreading the positivity. They definitely don’t mean ‘I love you’!

Kitcaterpillar · 09/03/2023 19:51

Does anyone else need to say that red hearts on Teams is completely normal behaviour, even in, gasp, a corporate environment? Yes? OK!

I work in a large corporate environment. The red hearts fly all day every day.

Middletoleft · 09/03/2023 19:52

ChilliBandit · 09/03/2023 19:08

Maybe the definition of corporate has just evolved?

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You're probably right, I'm heading to the end of my career with my very formal organisation. Between evolving technology and culture it's a lot less stuffy but probably still is compared to some!

Handsnotwands · 09/03/2023 20:01

❤️= like, good, well done, nice one
👍 = ok, got it, understood, received

winterbegone · 09/03/2023 20:03

It's s lazy but friendly way to acknowledge a message, I do it when I can't be bothered to type a reply.

GoodChat · 09/03/2023 21:06

@ChilliBandit it's funny because I always saw it as passive aggressive at my old company but it's always used positively at my new one (I hope!) Grin